Emotions
Clarity
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Questioner: When I do something my parents don’t approve of, they scold me. But sometimes the matter goes too far and I get offended, and then I refrain from talking back to them; I fear that if I say something, I will end up hurting them. But then, if I…
Women Empowerment
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प्रश्नकर्ता: मेरा सवाल भावनाओं को पहचानने पर है। कुछ चार साल पहले मैंने एक वर्कशॉप अटेंड की थी, जिसका नाम था ‘सेक्रेड फेमिनिन'। उसमें कुछ ऐसी बातें सामने आईं थी जो कि मैंने पहले कभी नहीं सुनी थी।
उसमें एक स्टेटमेंट थी- ‘इमोशन इस द एज ऑफ़ वैकफुलनेस। उस टीचिंग…
Emotions
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प्रश्नकर्ता: आचार्य जी, दीक्षा में पढ़ते हुए जो पहला श्लोक था, “ॐ पूर्णमदः पूर्णमिदं पूर्णात् पूर्णमुदच्यते,” तो इसमें पूर्ण का क्या मतलब है?
आचार्य प्रशांत: जिसकी तुम्हें तलाश है।
प्र: पूर्ण किससे पूर्ण है?
आचार्य: पूर्ण किसी से पूर्ण नहीं होता। पूर्ण मात्र पूर्ण होता है।
प्र: क्या उसमें संसार…
Emotions
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When feelings surge in your mind and body, be careful and pay attention! This is the moment when you lose the plot. The initial surge of energy that a feeling has is beyond your consciousness and control; it is determined mostly by your conditioning and partly by your genes. So, don't add conscious energy to the unconscious uprising. The most important mark of a wise man is that he does not live by feelings.
Emotions
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Hurt comes when you are not sure of yourself. You are saying you are all right with your habits, but not all right with people criticizing you. You feel hurt. If you feel hurt, that clearly tells you that you do not know what you do and why you do it. If you know that making the bed, for example, is the best thing you can do with your time in the morning, then why would you pay attention to someone objecting to it?
Excerpts from Articles
J. Krishnamurti's 'The Observer Is the Observed' Explained by Acharya Prashant
'The observer is the observed; an honest observation dissolves them both.' Or, 'The observer is the observed, and both are false.' We lay a lot of emphasis on the world, assuming it to be the Truth. If the world is an entity independent of everything, then it has to be the Truth, right? Truth is that which is independent of everything.
How Can The Common Man Make Better Decisions In Life?
First of all, we have to realize what our life is like. You know, I can’t change something without firstly understanding its processes and its actuality.
I must know what this thing called my life is. We keep living without knowing a thing about life. And we’re blinded by names and identities.
एक विकसित मन ही दोस्ती कर सकता है
जब तक दोस्ती का अर्थ नहीं समझोगे, तब तक जितनी भी दोस्तियाँ करोगे, सब गड़बड़ होंगी। जो तुम्हारी मक्कारी या नालायकी में साथ देगा, तुम उसे ही अपना असली दोस्त समझोगे। दोस्ती का मतलब है, गहराई से एक-दूसरे को समझना, और इसका असली अर्थ वही समझ सकता है, जो वयस्क और परिपक्व होने को तैयार हो। प्यार और दोस्ती केवल एक परिपक्व मन को ही मिलती हैं।
Who are You Without the Algorithm?
We were always algorithmic. We were always driven by instruction manuals. There was always some preset logic — inauthentic logic, borrowed logic — behind our conduct. And that’s why all that could be taken, consolidated, and put in the form of a code. Otherwise, where would the code come from?
यूट्यूबर बनना आसान है या कठिन?
कुछ नहीं होता उस कंटेंट में। इसीलिए सबको लगता है कि वो जो बकवास है, वो तो हम भी बना सकते हैं। तो हम भी यूट्यूबर बन जाएँ। वो वहाँ बैठा हुआ है, वो फूहड़ *कॉमेडी* कर रहा है। उससे अच्छी तो मैं कर सकता हूँ, तो मैं ही कर देता हूँ।
Spirituality Is Neither Culture Nor Tradition
Spirituality is neither a tradition nor a culture. Spirituality is not at all about following something or somebody. When it is said that you must follow the Guru, the Guru is the Truth, not a person not a man. Spirituality would never say, “Follow the words of a man.” Spirituality says, “Let the mind follow the Center, the Truth or you may call it the Heart or God.”
Was Dr. Ambedkar Against Hinduism?
Dr. Ambedkar, one of the greatest minds of modern India, had problems with Hindu culture, but not with Vedanta. Our culture is based on the very periphery of religion and does not resonate with Vedanta. That’s the reason it is in conflict with the Constitution. The Constitution and true religiosity—which you can call self-knowledge or Vedanta—go together.
प्रूफ नहीं है, तो मानें क्यों?
अंधविश्वास या किसी दावे को केवल किताबों, परंपराओं या बड़ी-बड़ी हस्तियों के कहने से नहीं मानना चाहिए। भौतिक जगत से जुड़े हर दावे के लिए प्रमाण माँगना आवश्यक है। जो बात जाँची-परखी जा सकती है, उसे तर्क, प्रयोग और उपकरणों से जाना जाए; बिना जाने नहीं माना जाए। सच्ची जिज्ञासा वही है जो हर दावे के सामने प्रश्नचिह्न रखे और प्रमाण मिलने पर ही स्वीकार करे।
How To Stop Being Lazy?
Those who are lazy, lack not in energy but in understanding. In physical nature, there is a tendency toward work minimization. If something gives you more output with less work, you will do it. You do not know that the right work brings benefits, dividends, and joy. Had you known it, you would have chosen the right action over laziness every moment.
Shruti Philosophy: The Hinduism That Stands Forgotten
The test is straightforward. Whatever aligns with Shruti is dharma. Whatever defies Shruti, however old or beloved, is not. Shruti demands only one thing: self-knowledge. Everything else is ornamental. Without Vedanta, Hindu identity risks becoming ritual without philosophy, sound without meaning. Offering flowers may express devotion, but it is not Sanatan Dharma. Seeing the Self is.
आँसू अगर सच्चे हैं तो भीतर आनंद ही आनंद है
सच्चे आँसू दुख के नहीं, भीतर की जकड़ से मुक्ति के प्रतीक हैं। समाज ने रोने को कमजोरी मान लिया है, लेकिन अस्तित्व कभी रोने से नहीं रोकता। आँसू बहाना मनुष्यता की निशानी है, इससे मन और आँखें दोनों साफ होती हैं। जो रो नहीं सकता, वह भीतर से सूख चुका है। भीजापन ही जीवन की असली निशानी है।
सिगरेट, शराब, ड्रग्स - क्यों चाहिए जवानी को नशा?
ये जो पैसे की अंधाधुंध दौड़ है, प्लेसमेंट, प्लेसमेंट — ये नशा कैसे नहीं है? बताओ न!
Break Free from the Need for Approval
You’re conditioned to think you can only exist with social approval. What holds you back is the fear that something devastating will happen if you don’t conform. Challenge that belief. One must have a healthy contempt for the world, which is possible only when one has deep love for what’s real. Otherwise, you'll keep bowing your head.
What is Yoga?
Yoga is action without attachment. Yoga is to refuse everything that keeps you little and limited. To live without a reason, to love without a cause, to act without greed and desire, that is Yoga. Total purposelessness is Yoga. Yoga is freedom from all whys.
Should Women Leave Their Parental Home?
Your only obligation is your liberation. These are just loveless social customs and economic structures where a woman is seen as a factor of production that produces babies. There’s no need to go to the husband’s place or even stay at your father’s if you are unloved and unwanted. The world is a vast opportunity. Live anywhere, stay anywhere, do whatever is the right work, and fly free—simple.
Does Self-Help Really Help?
Self-help doesn't help. Its approach is, “I am sad as my desires are not fulfilled, so the way to help myself is to fulfill desires.” They never realize their lives are driven by biological, social, and cultural forces outside of themselves. Spirituality offers the only real solution: “Before helping the self, one must know what the self really is."
Abortion Rights: Who Decides — Country, Religion or Society?
The building is raised on a weak foundation, and now you want to penalize everybody who comes and shakes it up even a little? You don't do this. Why did you allow this building to stand on such a weak foundation, and now you are trying to protect it through legislation? What kind of stupidity is this?
How to Deal With Loneliness?
Research has shown that loneliness is found throughout the society, including among people in marriages along with other strong relationships, and those with successful careers. As a subjective emotion, people experience loneliness even when surrounded by other people.
Emotions
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A thousand feelings: envy, fear, hatred, competition will come to you. You cannot fight them all, and there is no need to fight them. Be courageous when that feeling comes, and sit down like friends and talk. Be honest that you are the one who is nurturing that feeling all the time. Be aware that it is coming. Let it not enter like a thief. And when it comes, don’t feel small. You only need to understand, not control.
Emotions
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हम एक ऐसे माहौल में जीते हैं जिसमें समझ के लिए बहुत जगह नहीं है, और इसलिए हमने भावनाओं को बहुत ऊँचा दर्जा दे दिया है। यह बहुत दुर्भाग्यपूर्ण है, क्योंकि जो कोई भी तुम्हें ग़ुलाम बनाना चाहेगा, वह जरूर भावुकता का प्रदर्शन करेगा। भावुक करके ही तुम्हारे मन पर कब्जा किया जा सकता है। भावुकता में बड़ी हिंसा है! संवेदनशीलता में प्रेम है; संवेदनशीलता सीखो, भावुकता नहीं।
Emotions
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पुरुषों में महत्त्वाकांक्षा और महिलाओं में भावना, उन्हें कहीं का नहीं छोड़ते। समाज, संस्कार, लोकधर्म और देह, ये सब मिलकर चाहते हैं कि आप अपना पूरा जीवन सिर्फ़ देह के कामों में निकाल दो, कोई भी ऊँचा काम न करो। तुम्हारी भावनाएँ बंधन हैं, गहना मत माना करो उन्हें। संघर्ष करना सीखो, कोई भावनात्मक मजबूरी नहीं होती। 'मैं क्या करूँ, मेरे आँसू निकल जाते हैं।' तो फिर, ‘आँसुओं के साथ सही काम करो।’ बात इसमें नहीं है कि भावना उठी, बात इसमें है कि आपने भावना को समर्थन दे दिया क्या?
Emotions
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Expression is a relationship you establish with the world. It becomes a gift you give to others. What gets expressed, gets amplified. Anger expressed is anger amplified; attachment expressed is attachment multiplied. Do you want to gift chains and shackles, or something that helps and liberates?
Ego
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जब हमारा दमन होता है तब जिस ऊर्जा का दमन हो रहा होता है, वह ऊर्जा हममें सड़ने लगती है। वही ऊर्जा जो एक फूल बन सकती थी, काँटा बन जाती है। जिस ऊर्जा से विकास हो सकता था, वह थम कर बदबू देना शुरू कर देती हैl ऊर्जा को…
Motivation
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Acharya Prashant: Our story is that somebody says, ‘Hey! looking gorgeous today’. And we work up such a nice mood. And somebody says, ‘Hey! Where did you get this haircut from? Take two rupees from me, get a better haircut’. And we feel as if we have been put in…
Self Enquiry
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उत्साह और निरुत्साह एक दूसरे की छाया है। बेईमानी हमारी ये होती है कि अचानक किसी दिन आएँगे 'आज मैं ये कर दूँगा, वो कर दूँगा।' ऊँचे-ऊँचे दावे, बड़ी-बड़ी बातें और वो बड़ी बातें हम कर ही इसीलिए रहे हैं ताकि कल से फिर कुछ न करना पड़े। जो असली आदमी होता है उसके पास एक शान्त, स्थिर, शीतल उत्साह होता है। जब उत्साह सहज बन जाए, उत्साह में जब एक सहजता हो, आपको उत्साह चाहिए ही नहीं, आपका सहज काम ही ऊर्जावान हैं।
Love
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Questioner 1: Namaskar Acharya Ji! My question is, how should I control my emotions, so that they don’t become too extreme in positive as well as in negative situations. Actually, it happens to me every time that whenever I achieve my goal, I feel so happy. But if I fail,…
Clarity
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Question: Sir, you said our actions define who we are. But our actions also keep changing from time to time.
A person may be sleeping in this session and be very active in the next. So, can it be said that the definition of who we are keeps changing?
Speaker:…
Emotions
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Acharya Prashant: Vineet says, if mind is brain plus intelligence, which of these is in present moment, and he has used a word reaction.
Vineet, we will have to understand the difference between ‘reaction’ and ‘response’, right?
Ammonia and chlorine react with each other because they are configured to…
Emotions
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Question: Sir, when we lose a loved one in the form of a body, what happens actually is that the love remains intact but we lose that loved one in that physical form – the body. Please guide.
Acharya Prashant: There would anyway be so many thoughts, live in them.…
Truth
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Emotions, they can do whatever they want to do. It doesn’t matter how I am feeling. What matters is what I must do.
Ask yourself: Had you not been feeling this way or that way, what would have you done? And you will get a very good answer.
When you…
Mind
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Do not let your inner welfare be conditional. If your inner sense of well-being is dependent on favorable external conditions, then it is a very sorry state to be in, because conditions are never under our control and, I am saying, I will allow myself to feel alright only upon…
Thoughts
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Is lust a thought, or is lust more or less instantaneous? Does lust even give you space to think? In fact, if you could think in the moment of great lust or anger, then you would act better.
Thought has its uses. The emotional ones need to be the thoughtful…
Emotions
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Questioner (Q): How can negative emotions be expressed healthily? Can expressing negative emotions like crying be maladaptive? Does gender have a relation to mental health?
Acharya Prashant (AP): It doesn't matter whether you call the emotion negative or positive. The first thing to understand is that when you start calling…
Women Empowerment
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The man has seen the emotional side of the mother, so the man knows the woman’s emotionality. But the woman has never seen the sexual side of her father, so the woman really does not know man’s sexuality that much.
Do you get this? The man knows the woman’s emotionality,…
Mind
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Questioner: Hello sir, I am Utkarsh. I am pursuing my Master in Philosophy from the Department of Philosophy itself – Delhi University; my question dates back to the perennial debate between the concepts of EQ and IQ. And to expound my question, I would like to elaborate that this dates…
Women Empowerment
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One feels like worshiping the woman for enduring so much. One feels like worshiping the woman for being so willingly exploited. And one feels like slapping her hard in the face for being so stupid. Her own worst enemy she is.
Talk emotions to her, and she will be pleased.…
Clarity
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When you don’t operate from a spiritual center, then you operate from an emotional center. These emotions are causing this climate change. You are so emotional about that next foreign holiday, right? That is carbon intensive. You are so emotional about having a good, nice nest of your own—that is…
Values
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Before you accept or reject something, before you get wildly drawn to something, or before you just ignore something and move on, pause for five seconds, just five seconds, and ask: What is in it for me? What is the real importance it holds?
Do not be carried away by…
Attachment
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When you are not alright with yourself, then your attitude towards others, the way your energy flows towards others, is called as envy or desire.
If you are envious that somebody has something, then rest assured, you too desire that something. Envy and desire go together. Unless the other has…
Thoughts
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Pay attention to all your thoughts, emotions, actions. Something unknown is waiting there for you. Most people know nothing about themselves.
If you are angry, it tells you that there is something within you that is resisting the world now. Why is it resisting the world? Go into it. Try…
Suffering
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Hurt is not automatic. Somewhere there is an admission from you that you are hurt, and that you would be hurt, and that you would call yourself as hurt. Don’t call yourself as hurt, and see what happens.
Hurt is not an obligation. Hurt is a choice. Insecurity, fear, temptations—none…
Emotions
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Questioner (Q): I have been following some of the pages on social media, and there is one topic that is quite “in” these days—which says, ‘no emotion is a mistake’. But I have heard you in the past, and you have said that emotions are intensified thoughts. So won’t that…
Clarity
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We all have arguments in favor of our weaknesses, no?
“What do I do? I am just a kid.”
“What do I do? I don’t have the right background.”
“What do I do? I am just twenty years old.”
“What do I do? Nobody helps me.”
“What do I do?…
Women Empowerment
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The woman is her own worst enemy because she is very, very biology-driven. Man, too, is biology driven but he abides by his intellect much more than the woman does.
The woman is simpler, more innocent. I would dare to say the woman is simple and innocent just as animals…
Confusion
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Before you accept or reject something, before you get wildly drawn to something, or before you just ignore something and move on, pause for five seconds and ask, “What is in it for me? What is the real importance it holds?”
Do not be carried away by emotions. Do not…
Clarity
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Question: How can we control our emotions?
Speaker: How can you control something that you do not quite understand? Our friend here is controlling the operations of this camera. How is he able to control the operations? Because he understands the functioning, he knows what leads to what, he knows…
Animal Cruelty
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Instead of proceeding with a packaged product like meat, why don’t you slaughter the thing yourself? And when you slaughter the animal yourself, why don’t you know it fully even as you slaughter it? After all, even from a perspective of self-interest, if something is going into your body, it…
Suffering
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The belief that life is just crumbs and dredges thrown at you—that’s your undoing. You are content with too little.
To avoid facing pain, you have become numb and insensitive towards yourself. Deeper sensitivity results in deeper pain. To avoid facing pain we become insensitive, and when you are insensitive,…
Mind
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For us, support just means weeping with the weeping one. We totally forget that in most cases the ones who are weeping do not need to weep. The ones who are weeping are needlessly weeping, and if you support their tears, you are supporting their false centers; you are making…
Emotions
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Questioner: Sir, how to control our emotions?
Acharya Prashant: So, Shantanu is talking about controlling emotions. Let’s say Shantanu is driving his car. Do you drive your car in a controlled way or in an uncontrolled way? Obviously in a controlled way. Now, what is all control about? You are…
Emotions
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Questioner (Q): On one hand, I want to spiritually grow towards enlightenment, but at the same time, some side of me wants to have earthly freedom, experiences, like traveling. Even though I know that those things won’t bring me True Joy.
Are earthly pleasures a hindrance to spiritual growth?
Acharya…
Emotions
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Acharya Prashant: Emotional outbursts to settled living.
What do you see in the topic itself? “Emotional outbursts to settled living.” What is happening here?
What is happening here is that the mind is desiring the movement from one place to another place. From place A to place B; emotional outbursts…
Emotions
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Questioner: Is getting devoid of all emotions a part of feeling contented?
Acharya Prashant: Can you do that?
Why must we give importance to hypothetical questions? Can you really get rid of all emotions? And if you do, would that person be the same as this one? And if not,…
Clarity
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“Why are women so emotional? If we are saying that it is okay for a man to be emotional, there is an implicit assumption that men are not emotional but women are.”
Both are. It’s just that both express their emotionality in different ways. Inner urges, latent tendencies in women…
Thoughts
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“You have said that women and men both have emotionality but they express it differently. I have noticed women tend to be more indirect and coy when they talk. Is that again a same trait that is coming out differently?”
It is biological, very biological.
“Let the man make the…
Clarity
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Questioner: How can negative emotions be expressed in a healthy way? Can expressing negative emotions be maladaptive? Does gender have a relation to mental health?
Acharya Prashant: You see, it does not matter whether you call the emotion negative or positive. The first thing to understand is that when you…
Attachment
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Channelize your desire. You must know what you are really hungry for. Your central and primary desire is not sex. Sex may appear overpowering, tempting, but that is really not what you ultimately want. Figure out what you really must have, and then sex will be assigned automatically, inwardly, its…
Relationship
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Weakness is such a great strength. The child controls the mother—how? Not through his strength, but through his weakness. Decades and decades of the mother’s life are controlled by the child through the child’s weakness.
If the wife is strong, or if the husband is strong, they would not really…
Women Empowerment
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आचार्य प्रशांत: जो ये सारा छवि बचाने का खेल है, ये माल के लालच का खेल है।
ये जो पूरी बात ही है कि समाज में अपनी छवि अच्छी रहे, इज्ज़त ऊँची रहे, समझिए अच्छे से, कि वो बात पूरे तरीक़े से भौतिक है, मटेरियल है। भौतिक है, मटेरियल है।…
Truth
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