प्रश्नकर्ता: प्रणाम आचार्य जी, कॉन्फिडेंस (आत्म-विश्वास) के ही सन्दर्भ में आजकल काफ़ी चर्चित एक वक्तव्य भी यूज़ (प्रयोग) किया जाता है, फ़ेक इट टिल यू मेक इट (जब तक कामयाब न हो जाओ, कामयाब होने का नाटक करते रहो) तो मतलब उनका ये कहना है कि मान लीजिए अगर आप…
Speaker: ‘Good’ and ‘bad’ are value judgments. I will not very quickly get into them because you are adults, mature adults. You can find out on your own. I can only be with you, and together we can discover what all this ‘confidence’ business is all about.
What is it that blocks creativity? A cluttered mind, an obsessed mind, a worried mind, a mind too particular about results. Just as creativity is uncertain, similarly are the results of creativity. And if you are someone who bothers too much about results, then you cannot be creative.
Questioner (Q): (In tears, sitting next to the Speaker, by the Ganges and the Himalayas. Overwhelmed by his weeklong presence in the Speaker’s discourses) Why is it difficult to even be here?
Questioner: In the first five chapters of Śrīmadbhagavadgītā, I am seeing that Śrī Kṛṣṇa is repeatedly telling us of the state of the wise one, when I read such verses, all I see is a clear distance between the way the wise ones are and the way I live my
Spirituality is a most exquisite pursuit. It is only for those who are not at all contented with what the world can maximally offer. Not only are they not contented with what they already have, they are not contented even with the best that the world can potentially offer. Those…
Most people let their suffering de-energize them, stop them, encage them. And then there are others who work even more, get resolved even more exactly because they suffer. They let their suffering be their fuel. They don’t shy away from suffering.
A point comes they start inviting suffering. They say,…
Ruthlessly question everything, and patiently and devotedly seek to understand. You must ask the most fundamental questions. What is the school? What does it mean to be an American versus an Indian? Why do we call somebody a girl and the other a boy? What is our relationship with the…
The ego will forget 999 defeats and remember that one game when it was able to win a game in spite of being 0-9 down. The memory of that one game keeps your false confidence alive.
Then you repeatedly keep slipping to 0-9 positions.
As long as you keep giving importance to what you get from here and there, you will live in fear. And that is not necessary. Nobody wants to live in fear, right? Neither do you want to live in fear, nor do I want to live in fear. That is
Questioner: I work as a software engineer. My pocket is filling but not my heart. I quit my job two years ago and volunteer for an NGO which is a spiritual foundation. But somehow there was no transformation or peace within me even after one year of volunteering. So, I
Question (Q): Acharya Ji, being in Satsang, my mind is peaceful. But after some trigger happens, it gets deviated. How to deal with these external problems?
Spirituality just needs basic self-honesty, self-awareness. There is nothing mystical, nothing magical about it, but that is what it has been associated with. I am not talking of chanting; I am not talking of chakras; I am not talking of flying snakes; I am not talking of magical seeds. Not…
आचार्य प्रशांत: छह-सात साल पहले भी यहाँ पर शिविर लगा था। (गंगा जी के किनारे ) थोड़ा लम्बा सा शिविर था, कम-से-कम हफ़्ते-दस दिन का रहा होगा। तो बहुत सारे उसमें
प्रश्नकर्ता: जय हिंद आचार्य जी, मेरा सवाल ये है कि जैसे आपके एक विषय पर कई-कई वीडियोज हैं। तो कभी-कभी ऐसा होता है कि दो बातों में, एक ही विषय है, लेकिन विरोधाभास सा प्रतीत होता है। जैसे कि भय पर आपने बोला है तो भय पर कहते हैं कि…
प्रश्नकर्ता: नमस्कार गुरुजी, मुझे ये बोलना है कि मुझे काफ़ी हिम्मत की कमी महसूस होती है। उस कारण से कोई निर्णय भी स्पष्टता से नहीं ले पाता हूँ, न कुछ पूरी तरह हाँ होता है और न कुछ पूरी तरह ना होता है। मुझमें कोई स्पष्टता नहीं आ पाता। कृपया
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Questioner (Q): How can we remain constantly motivated throughout the academic year and throughout our life also? There are a lot of motivational videos out there, but their effect is short-lived; we remain motivated for a while and then go back to feeling demotivated. But we want to remain constantly…
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You require confidence when you are afraid. The one who is not afraid, does not require confidence. It is ego that gives rise to fear because I have always known myself through others. That is why I am always afraid. You remain as you are, then you would not need any confidence. Do not ask for confidence. Remain simple! Do not try to become something. Just remain as you are. Simple, ordinary!
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Physical weakness does not stay physical. It becomes mental weakness, and the ego, which turns everything into an identity, starts saying “I am weak” because that line brings support and spares it responsibility. Visible strength works even unused: it keeps the opponent outside wary and silences the one within, who can no longer claim to be helpless. Keeping the body strong is therefore a spiritual matter, not vanity. Are we holding on to weakness because it is convenient?
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When someone calls us ugly or dumb, it can feel as if our confidence has been taken away. But others are outsiders; they cannot know us as well as we can know ourselves. The trouble begins when we do not know ourselves, so we start looking at ourselves through others’ eyes. Self-knowledge here simply means being honest with ourselves about where our likes, fears and desires come from. What would change if we looked at ourselves directly, and not through others’ opinions?
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Was Dr. Ambedkar Against Hinduism?
Dr. Ambedkar, one of the greatest minds of modern India, had problems with Hindu culture, but not with Vedanta. Our culture is based on the very periphery of religion and does not resonate with Vedanta. That’s the reason it is in conflict with the Constitution. The Constitution and true religiosity—which you can call self-knowledge or Vedanta—go together.
Research has shown that loneliness is found throughout the society, including among people in marriages along with other strong relationships, and those with successful careers. As a subjective emotion, people experience loneliness even when surrounded by other people.
Your only obligation is your liberation. These are just loveless social customs and economic structures where a woman is seen as a factor of production that produces babies. There’s no need to go to the husband’s place or even stay at your father’s if you are unloved and unwanted. The world is a vast opportunity. Live anywhere, stay anywhere, do whatever is the right work, and fly free—simple.
कुछ नहीं होता उस कंटेंट में। इसीलिए सबको लगता है कि वो जो बकवास है, वो तो हम भी बना सकते हैं। तो हम भी यूट्यूबर बन जाएँ। वो वहाँ बैठा हुआ है, वो फूहड़ *कॉमेडी* कर रहा है। उससे अच्छी तो मैं कर सकता हूँ, तो मैं ही कर देता हूँ।
How Can The Common Man Make Better Decisions In Life?
First of all, we have to realize what our life is like. You know, I can’t change something without firstly understanding its processes and its actuality.
I must know what this thing called my life is. We keep living without knowing a thing about life. And we’re blinded by names and identities.
You’re conditioned to think you can only exist with social approval. What holds you back is the fear that something devastating will happen if you don’t conform. Challenge that belief. One must have a healthy contempt for the world, which is possible only when one has deep love for what’s real. Otherwise, you'll keep bowing your head.
J. Krishnamurti's 'The Observer Is the Observed' Explained by Acharya Prashant
'The observer is the observed; an honest observation dissolves them both.' Or, 'The observer is the observed, and both are false.' We lay a lot of emphasis on the world, assuming it to be the Truth. If the world is an entity independent of everything, then it has to be the Truth, right? Truth is that which is independent of everything.
जब तक दोस्ती का अर्थ नहीं समझोगे, तब तक जितनी भी दोस्तियाँ करोगे, सब गड़बड़ होंगी। जो तुम्हारी मक्कारी या नालायकी में साथ देगा, तुम उसे ही अपना असली दोस्त समझोगे। दोस्ती का मतलब है, गहराई से एक-दूसरे को समझना, और इसका असली अर्थ वही समझ सकता है, जो वयस्क और परिपक्व होने को तैयार हो। प्यार और दोस्ती केवल एक परिपक्व मन को ही मिलती हैं।
Yoga is action without attachment. Yoga is to refuse everything that keeps you little and limited. To live without a reason, to love without a cause, to act without greed and desire, that is Yoga. Total purposelessness is Yoga. Yoga is freedom from all whys.
Self-help doesn't help. Its approach is, “I am sad as my desires are not fulfilled, so the way to help myself is to fulfill desires.” They never realize their lives are driven by biological, social, and cultural forces outside of themselves. Spirituality offers the only real solution: “Before helping the self, one must know what the self really is."
अंधविश्वास या किसी दावे को केवल किताबों, परंपराओं या बड़ी-बड़ी हस्तियों के कहने से नहीं मानना चाहिए। भौतिक जगत से जुड़े हर दावे के लिए प्रमाण माँगना आवश्यक है। जो बात जाँची-परखी जा सकती है, उसे तर्क, प्रयोग और उपकरणों से जाना जाए; बिना जाने नहीं माना जाए। सच्ची जिज्ञासा वही है जो हर दावे के सामने प्रश्नचिह्न रखे और प्रमाण मिलने पर ही स्वीकार करे।
Shruti Philosophy: The Hinduism That Stands Forgotten
The test is straightforward. Whatever aligns with Shruti is dharma. Whatever defies Shruti, however old or beloved, is not. Shruti demands only one thing: self-knowledge. Everything else is ornamental. Without Vedanta, Hindu identity risks becoming ritual without philosophy, sound without meaning. Offering flowers may express devotion, but it is not Sanatan Dharma. Seeing the Self is.
Abortion Rights: Who Decides — Country, Religion or Society?
The building is raised on a weak foundation, and now you want to penalize everybody who comes and shakes it up even a little? You don't do this. Why did you allow this building to stand on such a weak foundation, and now you are trying to protect it through legislation? What kind of stupidity is this?
We were always algorithmic. We were always driven by instruction manuals. There was always some preset logic — inauthentic logic, borrowed logic — behind our conduct. And that’s why all that could be taken, consolidated, and put in the form of a code. Otherwise, where would the code come from?
सच्चे आँसू दुख के नहीं, भीतर की जकड़ से मुक्ति के प्रतीक हैं। समाज ने रोने को कमजोरी मान लिया है, लेकिन अस्तित्व कभी रोने से नहीं रोकता। आँसू बहाना मनुष्यता की निशानी है, इससे मन और आँखें दोनों साफ होती हैं। जो रो नहीं सकता, वह भीतर से सूख चुका है। भीजापन ही जीवन की असली निशानी है।
Those who are lazy, lack not in energy but in understanding. In physical nature, there is a tendency toward work minimization. If something gives you more output with less work, you will do it. You do not know that the right work brings benefits, dividends, and joy. Had you known it, you would have chosen the right action over laziness every moment.
Spirituality is neither a tradition nor a culture. Spirituality is not at all about following something or somebody. When it is said that you must follow the Guru, the Guru is the Truth, not a person not a man. Spirituality would never say, “Follow the words of a man.” Spirituality says, “Let the mind follow the Center, the Truth or you may call it the Heart or God.”
The question of confidence arises only when you are afraid. You do not need confidence when you are with the loved one, but in the interview room, everybody says, “I need confidence.” Look at all your images of confidence, and you will see a fine aggression there, because fear and violence go together. Don’t ask for confidence, ask for fearlessness.
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तामसिकता का अर्थ आलस्य होना आवश्यक नहीं, हालांकि सतह पर यह आलस्य जैसा लग सकता है। असली तमस स्वयं को यह भरोसा दिलाने में निहित है कि "मैं ठीक हूँ," "मैं स्वस्थ हूँ," "मुझे सब पता है," जबकि वास्तव में न तो मैं ठीक हूँ, न स्वस्थ, न ही स्वयं का जानकार। ऐसे व्यक्ति या तो स्वयं जागें, या फिर ज़िंदगी शायद उन्हें झंझोड़कर जगा पाए — जिसकी संभावना बहुत कम होती है। सबसे अच्छा विकल्प है स्वयं जाग जाना, क्योंकि जब जीवन सिखाता है, तो फिर वह किसी भी तरह की रियायत नहीं देता।
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Confidence is your enemy. Catch the inner thief red-handed. Look at its functioning. See how it manipulates and distorts. See how it has preset conclusions and then fabricates arguments in favor of the conclusions.
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कॉन्फ़िडेंस का मतलब ये नहीं होता कि आप भयमुक्त हो गए। कॉन्फ़िडेंस का मतलब होता है कि भीतर भय तो बिराजा ही हुआ है उसके ऊपर आप निर्भय दिखने की कोशिश कर रहे हो। अगर भीतर वो डर मौजूद नहीं होता तो आपको कॉन्फ़िडेंस की ज़रूरत पड़ती ही नहीं। डर छोड़ना आसान है, बस डर के साथ जो सुख सुविधाएँ मिलती हैं उनका लालच थोड़ा छोड़ दीजिए।
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We are born confident. Do you see how a kid is so immensely full of confidence? None of us are born afraid. When we are afraid, we ask for confidence. Do not ask for confidence; instead, ask for freedom from fear. Fear is a thought given to you by society. It is not what you are. Just as you picked it up, you can drop it back. Exercise that power.
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प्रश्नकर्ता: प्रणाम, आचार्य जी। मैं बचपन से एक धार्मिक परिवार में पला-बढ़ा हूँ। बचपन से पूजा-पाठ हमारे घर में चलता था। रामायण-महाभारत हमारे घर में चलता था। तो उन सब का देखा-देखी मैं भी सबसे रामायण-महाभारत साझा करता था। लोग खुश होते थे और मुझे भी एक तरह का प्रोत्साहन…
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Put your heart fully into your work, and your mind will no longer be in the audience. When there is no heart in your work, then your mind wanders in the world. Love your work, and you will forget the world. Your problem is not that you are too concerned with people’s opinions. Your problem is that there is no heart in your work.
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I am not talking of your confidence arising from skill or knowledge. I am talking of your confidence arising from the realization that no business is God. And that the Truth remains with you even if your business fails and the Truth does not get amplified even if your business prospers. Read more....
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How do you, ask the chief of police, patrol a city,
where the butcher shops are guarded by vultures,
where bulls get pregnant, cows are barren,
and calves give milk three times a day,
where mice are the boatmen, and tomcats row the boats,
where frogs keep snakes as watchdogs,…
As you are…
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Can this happen that ‘I don’t know and I don’t even want to know, and that there will always be something more to know’? Can this happen that a person thinks that ‘I am so peaceful that I don’t even want to know’?
Shri Prashant: You see, these are…
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The question is, “How do I know whether I am confident or overconfident? One is considered positive, the other is considered negative.” I ask you again. How can I declare a quantity ‘x’ to be positive or negative if I do not know that quantity. I must know something
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I don’t have confidence in myself. How to gain it?
Acharya Prashant: The question comes from an extreme – “I do not have confidence in myself.” But surely, this question addresses a pain that all experience in varying degrees, on various occasions.
There is nobody who does not feel…
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You must learn aloneness before you relate with people. You must be very, very comfortable with yourself. If you are someone who cannot be with herself comfortably, easily, gladly, then kindly spare the other person. If you are not alright with yourself, then don’t start piggybacking on the other—and usually…
You would…
Acharya Prashant (AP): Something is difficult if you try to fight. Something is difficult only if you try…
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What I notice with myself is that having thoughts prevents me from listening with attention and then I say to them, ‘leave; go away!’ What’s your opinion on this?
Acharya Prashant: Don’t say even that much to your thoughts.
Listener 1: Then? Is it not about being conscious of…
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Around 100 students.
Speaker: Dilpreet is asking, ‘how can I boost up my confidence?’ Now you see, there are 100 students sitting over here. Who is the…
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It is 0-3; you say, “Not
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In our society, in this distorted culture that we have nowadays, there is just too much emphasis on public speaking; there is just too much emphasis on confident expression. A clear extrovert—that has become the ideal of this age. Speak, and speak without content; speak, and speak without knowledge. Your…
Acharya Prashant (AP): Ah…
Q: And sir, a few keywords have been introduced and discussed vividly in today's session: one being ambition, one being happiness, and the other being confidence.…
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I lack confidence when it comes to decision-making. I am always doubtful of whether I am making the right decision or not, and this results in a lot of stress and having to take a lot of time to decide anything. How can I be more confident in
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Questioner (Q): Pranaam Acharyaji! I’ve been living my life completely confined to the four walls of the house, and I didn’t realize for a very long time the impact it has been having on me. It is only after seeing your videos and then, reflecting on the way I’m living…
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Acharya Prashant (AP): The trigger does not work really automatically. You program yourself to be triggered. You are standing and a fellow comes over…
What is meant by saying that confidence is fear? And secondly, does it practically help me to know this?
Acharya Prashant (AP): Both are related. You see if you really come to understand it, then the question of the application of your understanding becomes redundant. Because whatever you…
How did you associate confidence with knowledge? You did that, right? By unnecessarily saying a few things to
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Speaker: So, it is a nice question to start with. Confidence is something that we want, right? We do not like to be unsure or hesitant. We do not like to be in a situation where we are not certain that we know. That brings us to the word,…
प्रश्नकर्ता:
आचार्य जी, आप तो जानते हो कि यहाँ अमेरिका में
न्यू ऐज फिलोसॉफी
(नये युग के दर्शन) का बहुत ज़्यादा ज़ोर है। और हमने जब बात की थी। और आपने कई
वीडियोज़
में इस बात का जिक्र किया है कि अपने खुद के ऊपर भरोसा आपको कम करना होगा।
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पार्टिसिपेंट
(प्रतिभागी ) थे, कुछ उसमें जवान लोग भी थे कॉलेजी, ऐसा ही पूरा गंगा का बहाव था। तब
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प्रश्नकर्ता: आचार्य जी, समय को लेकर संघर्ष लगता है, जैसे कि सबके पास चौबीस घंटे होते हैं तो मेरे पास भी चौबीस घंटे ही हैं, लेकिन जब कुछ काम करने जाता हूँ तो उसमें एक बार मन कहता है, ‘कोई बात नहीं, आराम करो।’ और जब समय निकल जाता है…
प्रश्नकर्ता:
नमस्ते आचार्य जी। आत्मविश्वास के असली और नकली अर्थ क्या हैं? क्या आत्मविश्वास बस मान्यता मात्र है? क्योंकि इसमें 'आत्म' शब्द भी जुड़ा हुआ है, तो थोड़ा स्पष्ट करें।
आचार्य प्रशांत: जो साधारण आत्मविश्वास होता है वो एक आग्रह होता है, वो आग्रह होता है कि मुझे जो पता…
टॉक्सिक पॉजिटिविटी
(ज़हरीली सकारात्मकता) को लेकर है। आजकल बहुत सारे
मोटीवेशनल स्पीकर्स
(प्रेरक वक्ता) हैं और
इन्फ्लूएंसर्स
(प्रभावित करने वाले) हैं। वो ये बताते हैं कि अगर आपकी
लाइफ़
(जीवन) में कुछ बुरा चल रहा है, कुछ ख़राब स्थिति चल रही है
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प्रश्नकर्ता: आचार्य जी, आपको सुनने से बहुत स्पष्टता बढ़ी है। लेकिन जीवन के व्यावहारिक स्तरों पर अपनी और कमज़ोरियाँ प्रकट होने लगी हैं, तो मैं फँस जाता हूँ। जैसे गन्तव्य तक जाने के लिए सड़क के मार्ग का चुनाव से लेकर जीवन के बड़े निर्णयों तक। तो इन सब में…
जगत में आपकी साधारण कामना भी कोई पूरी न हो तो आप विषय को दोष देते हैं या परिस्थितियों को या संयोगों को दोष दे देते हैं। कुछ चाहिए था, वो मिला नहीं तो भीतर कटुता उठती है। और सारी कटुता बाहर की दिशा को प्रेषित रहती है।
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प्रणाम आचार्य जी, मेरा प्रश्न श्रीमद्भगवद्गीता से है। श्रीकृष्ण कर्मयोग की जब बात करते हैं, तो वो कहते हैं, "निधनं श्रेय:", तो उसका सजीव उदाहरण अगर मैंने कहीं पढ़ा है, या इतिहास में देखा जाए, तो शहीद-ए-आज़म भगतसिंह मुझे उसका बहुत बड़ा उदाहरण दिखते हैं।
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