Attraction

Wasting Life on an Unworthy Person?
Wasting Life on an Unworthy Person?
11 min

Questioner: I was in a relationship with a person from the last eight years. Last three years while being with me, he was also seeing and dating other women. I have always been honest and loyal to him. After knowing that he is so mean, so dishonest, why am I

Do Attractive Girls Get More Love?
Do Attractive Girls Get More Love?
6 min
If the girl is physically attractive, the boy will feel physical attraction. Where does love come into the equation? Love is harder towards someone attractive because physical attractiveness overpowers everything else. If someone comes for your body, it’s not love. A wise woman laughs when a suitor praises her beauty.
Does Law of Attraction Work?
Does Law of Attraction Work?
6 min
The ‘Law of Attraction’ is based on the premise that you know what is truly worthy to attract. But do you really know? If a drunkard uses it, he would attract a truckload of beer, making things worse for him. Often, what you try to attract is just your disease. Can you use this law to bring peace to you? The real thing is not an object of attraction.
He looks Handsome, and She looks Sexy. Why? || AP Neem Candies
He looks Handsome, and She looks Sexy. Why? || AP Neem Candies
4 min

Acharya Prashant: Women like burly guys. Why do they like burly and big and muscular guys? Because they are likely to have a higher level of testosterone. Unless you have testosterone, you cannot build muscles, right? And that is why you cannot build muscles, let's say after 50 or 60.

Sex That Heals and Sex That Bleeds || AP Neem Candies
Sex That Heals and Sex That Bleeds || AP Neem Candies
4 min

Acharya Prashant: The punishment for not having a girlfriend is that you will keep fantasizing about girls. Does that not happen? Who are the ones who always keep salivating? The singles. And you meet someone who is in a relationship, he won't want to look at girls or boys, for

Agree With Freedom for Freedom Is Your Nature
Agree With Freedom for Freedom Is Your Nature
7 min

Questioner: What is the role of persuasion in teaching? Is it alright if teaching involves a certain degree of persuasion? If yes, why must one be persuaded?

Acharya Prashant: Freedom is available only to a free mind. A mind that has been conditioned, deeply enslaved, moves from no other factor

How Can a 20-Year-Old Find the Purpose of Life?
How Can a 20-Year-Old Find the Purpose of Life?
13 min

Questioner 1: There's one thing that I feel that should be discussed is the true purpose of life. We all talk about it a lot. We all hear it a lot. But what do you think is the true purpose of life, and how does someone who is 20 years

Cosmetic Face, Cosmetic Life.
Cosmetic Face, Cosmetic Life.
8 min
Try to have real value in life, and then the misplaced emphasis on looks, etc. will be no more. By that I am not meaning that you should target looking dirty and unclean. Please don't do that. Read more....
The flaw of Law of Attraction, black magic and Your perception
The flaw of Law of Attraction, black magic and Your perception
6 min

Acharya Prashant: ‘Law of attraction’, all such stuff is based on the premise that you know what is worthy enough to be attracted to. Who are you to know that? Do you really know that? And if you really knew that, would you really want to attract something? Wouldn't you

Love must be discriminatory and conditional
Love must be discriminatory and conditional
3 min

Questioner (Q): Today we read that loneliness is love and in aloneness, love is gone; only the beloved remains. Doesn’t this boil down to self-love? Is aloneness and self-love different?

Acharya Prashant (AP): Love is not blind. And you cannot love nonsense. To help something is one thing, to purify

The thing about the Law of Attraction || Neem Candies
The thing about the Law of Attraction || Neem Candies
1 min

If a drunkard were to use the law of attraction, what would he deem suitable to attract to himself? A huge truckload of beer. He would keep fantasizing of beer companies and such things, and maybe that materializes also. And if that materializes, it is even worse for the drunkard,

Seeking a good-looking partner? || Acharya Prashant (2020)
Seeking a good-looking partner? || Acharya Prashant (2020)
6 min

Questioner (Q): Acharya Ji, there are different planes of love possible – mental, spiritual, physical. But somehow, to me, they seem different. It may be because that I have been raised this way that I intertwine these two – mental and physical plane. And that is how I come to

The difference between Love and attraction || Acharya Prashant (2014)
The difference between Love and attraction || Acharya Prashant (2014)
9 min

Listener: What is an attraction?

Acharya Prashant : At least this much should be very clear. We see instances of attraction, every moment, all the time around us. There is the game of attraction going on. So somebody bangs the door, and your mind gets attracted towards that. It is

Gynaecology is psychology ||Neem Candies
Gynaecology is psychology ||Neem Candies
1 min

Gynaecology is psychology. Where else does the whole thing come from? And it’s not as if I am talking exclusively of women; with the men it’s just the same.

This entire body is just genitals expressing themselves in various forms. One part of genitals you call as genitals; the other

Two ways how the evil captures you || Neem Candies
Two ways how the evil captures you || Neem Candies
1 min

The evil can consume you in two ways. One is, you look at evil and you find it beautiful. Some people do; they are captivated by the sheer charm of evil. Aren’t the dons in the movies sometimes very charming? In fact, the most charming characters in the movies in

The hottest body! || Neem Candies
The hottest body! || Neem Candies
1 min

When the woman is not in front of you, do you keep fantasizing about her all the time? This is mental illness. Only if you are indulging in all kinds of sexual fantasies and inner perversion will you jump upon her at the first sight. Otherwise, there is hardly anything

Hyper sexualization || Neem Candies
Hyper sexualization || Neem Candies
1 min

Men and women are different; their biologies make them different. But what we have is a hyper genderization, a hyper sexualization. The differences are there, but little. Society has hyper-inflated those differences. The woman has been turned into a hyper-woman, and the man has been turned into a hyper-man. And

Why display a sexy figure? || Neem Candies
Why display a sexy figure? || Neem Candies
1 min

I am saying this as a friend of the woman. I am asking her, why is the male sight or the male gaze so important to you? If you want attention from people, if you want respect from people, why can’t it be for higher reasons? Why do you want

What is beauty?  || Neem Candies
What is beauty? || Neem Candies
1 min

If you take yourself as primarily physical, then beauty too for you would be something just physical. You will look at the woman most capable of successfully reproducing. That’s the prakritik definition of beauty.

The first thing that comes to mind is flowers. What are flowers? Flowers are the reproductive

Real beauty || Neem Candies
Real beauty || Neem Candies
1 min

It is not so much about attracting somebody beautiful to yourself or about obtaining a beautiful mate in your life. It is more about knowing what beauty really is. Depending on your definition of beauty, you will choose your relationships, you will choose everything in life. Because life, in one

That fairytale love affair || Neem Candies
That fairytale love affair || Neem Candies
1 min

The quality of your love depends on the quality of your life. Your love affair cannot be a sublime thing if your life is mired in littleness.

We all want our love affairs to be fairytales, and we don’t look at our lives. We are little people—afraid, desirous, ambitious, suspicious.

Men are at fault || Neem Candies
Men are at fault || Neem Candies
1 min

If a woman is good and fine, then her lover or husband would spoil her. Women must be honored for her intelligence, her qualities, for her inner strength. But when you start giving her importance for reasons like, her body is attractive and she is very sexually appealing, then you

Women like burly guys || Neem Candies
Women like burly guys || Neem Candies
1 min

Women like burly guys—and why do they like burly, big, and muscular guys? Because they are likely to have higher levels of testosterone. Unless you have testosterone, you cannot build muscles; you know that, right? And that is why you cannot build muscles, let’s say, after fifty or sixty. It’s

How do you relate to the other? || Neem Candies
How do you relate to the other? || Neem Candies
1 min

I understand, we live in a society, we are related to each other, we will have something to do with the other. You will always have some relationship with the other. But why can’t that relationship be on healthier grounds? Why must the two be related because they appreciate each

Tough love || Neem Candies
Tough love || Neem Candies
1 min

False love is very lucrative, very charming. Oh, there is such a romance around it! But then, that romance is hardly love.

Real love tests. Real love stretches, breaks. Real love is like a sculptor carving a beautiful one out of an unseemly rock. The rock must go through and

All material attraction comes from the same center || Neem Candies
All material attraction comes from the same center || Neem Candies
1 min

You do not need to wait for your encounters with women to know whether or not you are sexually motivated. Just see whether leather seats attract you. Just see whether furniture and garments and carpets and upholstery and wall-hangings and curtains and sofa sets attract you. Just see whether you

Remember this about love ||Neem Candies
Remember this about love ||Neem Candies
1 min

Real love is always tough. False love is very lucrative, very charming—oh, there is such a romance around it. But then, that romance is hardly love.

Real love tests. Real love stretches, breaks. Real love is like a sculptor carving a beautiful one out of an unseemly rock. The rock

Changing partners? || Neem Candies
Changing partners? || Neem Candies
1 min

If you are someone who is a serial relater—one relationship after the other or several relationships at a time, whatever, it is one and the same thing really—you must tell yourself that you really have not a physical but a spiritual urge. And therefore, you should stop your mad, nonsensical

Be cautious of what attracts you
Be cautious of what attracts you
14 min

Acharya Prashant: The Upanishad is saying, “Be very, very cautious of the one you take as your god. Be very, very cautious of the one you feel pulled towards. Be extremely cautious of the one you are attracted and attached to. You will become that. You have no option.”

When

Hurt by conflicts with attached ones? || (2019)
Hurt by conflicts with attached ones? || (2019)
6 min

Questioner: Acharya Ji, whenever any conflict arises between myself and the ones I am attached to, why does it hurt me?

Acharya Prashant: It is because we don’t comprehend the nature of duality, so we want to have one side of duality while trying to avoid the other side. And

When the right battle feels difficult || Neem Candies
When the right battle feels difficult || Neem Candies
1 min

Hold on. There will be temptations; old habits, old environments will beckon you, but stand still and strong. Don’t give up. It’s a battle worth fighting and worth winning. Don’t lose this one.

If you can win this one, then in all the forthcoming battles of life victory is guaranteed.

Responding to beauty || Neem Candies
Responding to beauty || Neem Candies
2 min

You are saying that you step out and you look at the opposite sex and feel attracted, and you are calling it a problem. To deal with the problem, first of all, there must be a problem. The man is charming—how is that a problem? The woman is beautiful and

How attachment arises, and how to get rid of it? || (2013)
How attachment arises, and how to get rid of it? || (2013)
8 min

Questioner (Q): What is attachment?

Acharya Prashant (AP): The way our brain is constituted, it has nothing of its own. If you ask the brain, "Who are you?" It will not be able to say anything if it has been kept in complete isolation. But the brain is never in

Can Nature Worship in the Vedas Hold Deeper Meaning Today?
Can Nature Worship in the Vedas Hold Deeper Meaning Today?
14 min
The higher meaning is desirelessness. You cannot worship something with a view to obtain favors from it. That's exploitation. That's consumption. So the real kind of nature worship that we talk of, let's say, in durga saptshati, that's different. That's where the relationship is not of bhog.
Popular reasons to marry || Neem Candies
Popular reasons to marry || Neem Candies
1 min

In our country, most people marry because that is sometimes the only way of getting some good sex—good and assured sex. Otherwise, the fellow would either have to spend a lot of money or a lot of time, or both, and then still return empty-handed. Isn’t that so?

Now, if

Finding God Is Easy, Tolerating Him Is Difficult
Finding God Is Easy, Tolerating Him Is Difficult
19 min

Acharya Prashant: Suffering is a fire that burns down a lot. It brings along a certain purification. One of the poets gave the example of a snowball. Snowball that is cleansing itself in its own blood; by melting down. When a snowball starts melting, it starts becoming cleaner. And the

How to Meet Others’ Expectations?
How to Meet Others’ Expectations?
6 min
People expect because they feel that something is missing from life. They expect from the world, from others, from situations, from luck, and also from themselves. The root of all these expectations is an inner feeling of lack of fulfillment. Meeting others’ expectations is a false treatment where you allow illusions to persist. If you love your dear ones, bring the Truth closer to them.
J. Krishnamurti's 'The Observer Is the Observed' Explained by Acharya Prashant
J. Krishnamurti's 'The Observer Is the Observed' Explained by Acharya Prashant
8 min
'The observer is the observed; an honest observation dissolves them both.' Or, 'The observer is the observed, and both are false.' We lay a lot of emphasis on the world, assuming it to be the Truth. If the world is an entity independent of everything, then it has to be the Truth, right? Truth is that which is independent of everything.
Can Multiple Sexual Partners Fulfill You?
Can Multiple Sexual Partners Fulfill You?
8 min
All your relationships are deeply your attempts to fill an inner void. Whether you relate sexually to one person or many — will sex give you what you truly want? The body is a shallow means to attain that which your consciousness craves. There are beautiful ways of relating to men and women; relate to them in higher ways.
When You are Alright, then the Sound of Your Footsteps Is Compassion
When You are Alright, then the Sound of Your Footsteps Is Compassion
9 min
When you are not bothered about the other, that is when you are totally compassionate. When you are not trying to change the other, that is when you become an agent of change. Compassion is not about thinking all the time of others. You cannot try to be compassionate. When you are alright, then the sound of your footsteps is compassion. That is what compassion is.
Two Types of Hope
Two Types of Hope
4 min
Most of the times, we are preoccupied with the first kind of hope, which says, “Get something, get something.” That kind of hope will keep me dependent and afraid. The second kind of hope which says, “I just want to get rid and discover my true nature, discover my aloneness and freedom." In this hope you say, “I am already a diamond. Just that a lot of dirt has gathered on the diamond, and I want to get rid of the dirt.
Is Self-Love About Being Happy?
Is Self-Love About Being Happy?
8 min
Making yourself happy isn't self-love. Self-love is gifting yourself the highest possible. If you do not know what to give yourself, at least abstain from giving yourself toxic and harmful things. Real love is always tough. Self-love is an exercise in reduction, not accumulation. When you work to make your life beautiful, you are truly loving yourself.
The Joy of Being Drenched in Love
The Joy of Being Drenched in Love
13 min
Usually our love is about one special thing or person. But Kabir Sahab is saying, "Hari bhai ban rai—the entire jungle has turned green. I see greenery not merely in one tree, but in the entire jungle.” That’s the difference between common love and Kabir Sahab’s love. In your love, there is just one green tree; in Kabir Sahab’s love, the entire world has turned green: there is nothing dry anywhere anymore.
I Am Either Absolutely Everything, or Nothing at All
I Am Either Absolutely Everything, or Nothing at All
11 min
I alone am! Nothing else. One could either have consciousness that is related to just these three states, a gross consciousness for which the material is supreme, an emotional mind, a thinker, analytical person who lives in ideas, or somebody who has been able to go beyond these two but is yet restless with this ‘I am'. One’s consciousness could rest in these three states or it could find a peaceful and relaxed home in just nothing. Call it either just nothing or call it absolutely everything — An all pervasive ‘I am', all pervasive ‘I am'.
Without this, all is worthless || Acharya Prashant, on Guru Kabir (2019)
Without this, all is worthless || Acharya Prashant, on Guru Kabir (2019)
5 min

If you cannot win the love of the Lord, so what if you can lord over your neighbor? What is the good of dressing your hair and donning your feet with jingling jewelry? What is the value of all your makeup with kajal to your eyelids and vermilion to your

Freedom From Expectations
Freedom From Expectations
7 min
Nobody can make you a slave without your consent. You withdraw your consent, and you are free. But withdrawing that consent would mean moving out of your comfort zone. Freedom does not come free. Freedom has to be earned. "The day you decide, the day you see that I am free and I deserve a free life, you will actually be free." But first, let that realization come. Unless that realization comes, nothing can happen.
Why Does One Desire Liberation while the Other does not?
Why Does One Desire Liberation while the Other does not?
5 min

Questioner: Why is there a difference of intensity and love for mukti (liberation) between different human beings?

Acharya Prashant: The differences that you are talking of all relate to time; therefore, they all will be resolved in due course of time. Time gave rise to all those differences, and those

Are You in a Right Relationship?
Are You in a Right Relationship?
12 min
There are only two kinds of relationships that are right in this world. If you connect with someone at a higher level of consciousness, hold their hand so they can uplift you. If you connect with someone at a lower level of consciousness, hold their hand to uplift them. Any other kind of relationship is junk.
Acharya Prashant on Two Kinds of Hope
Acharya Prashant on Two Kinds of Hope
7 min
The first kind of hope says, "I want to get something," while the second says, "I want to get rid of something." Most of us focus on the first kind, which keeps us dependent and afraid. The second kind urges us to shed everything and discover our true nature. If you must hope, hope for the second kind—hope to free yourself from societal bondage, fear, and all that’s accumulated. You are already perfect, like a diamond. What can a diamond want? What more can be added to it? Just remove the dirt. Hope to get rid of the dirt.
Is Sex and Meditation Just an Escape of Ego?
Is Sex and Meditation Just an Escape of Ego?
8 min
The ego says that my first priority is to remain, exist, and after that comes everything else. Even the Truth must be subservient to my first priority. So, liberation is alright as long as it is a second of liberation. Peace is alright as long as it is five minutes of peace. But if silence threatens to take over the entire life, if peace starts dominating noise to the extent that the noise might be completely annihilated, then the ego rejects. The ego wants Truth, but only a modicum of Truth. The ego wants peace, but only a sliver of peace.