Attraction

Questioner: Acharya Ji, whenever any conflict arises between myself and the ones I am attached to, why does it hurt me?

Acharya Prashant: It is because we don’t comprehend the nature of duality, so we want to have one side of duality while trying to avoid the other side. And…

ये कौन-सी बड़ी बात हो गई कि किसी पुरुष को स्त्रियाँ अच्छी लगतीं हैं, किसी को स्त्रियाँ अच्छी नहीं लगतीं? तुम्हें स्त्रियाँ नहीं अच्छी लगतीं तो तुम्हें कुछ और अच्छा लगता होगा। तुम किधर की ओर भी खिंच रहे हो, तुम सत्य की ओर तो नहीं खिंच रहे न? जो कुछ भी तुम्हें खींच रहा है, वो झूठ ही है। लोगों को बड़ी दिक़्क़त होती है, समलैंगिक लोगों से। और वो दिक़्क़त उन्हें क्यों होती है? क्योंकि वो चाहते हैं कि स्त्री है तो पुरुष की ओर जाये और पुरुष है तो स्त्री की ओर जाये।

Questioner: What is the role of persuasion in teaching? Is it alright if teaching involves a certain degree of persuasion? If yes, why must one be persuaded?

Acharya Prashant: ‘Law of attraction’, all such stuff is based on the premise that you know what is worthy enough to be attracted to. Who are you to know that? Do you really know that? And if you really knew that, would you really want to attract something? Wouldn't you

आचार्य प्रशांत: सारा जगत किसके द्वारा व्याप्त है ऋषिवर? ऋषिवर ने कह दिया, ‘ब्रह्म के द्वारा’, ब्रह्म के द्वारा। छोटे उत्तर चाहिए तो हम तुम्हें बता सकते हैं कि भई, ये जो सब ग्रह-उपग्रह हैं, ये एक-दूसरे को पारस्परिक गुरुत्वाकर्षण से बाँधे हुए हैं, हम बता सकते हैं। हम बता

If a drunkard were to use the law of attraction, what would he deem suitable to attract to himself? A huge truckload of beer. He would keep fantasizing of beer companies and such things, and maybe that materializes also. And if that materializes, it is even worse for the drunkard,

Questioner (Q): Acharya Ji, there are different planes of love possible – mental, spiritual, physical. But somehow, to me, they seem different. It may be because that I have been raised this way that I intertwine these two – mental and physical plane. And that is how I come to

Gynaecology is psychology. Where else does the whole thing come from? And it’s not as if I am talking exclusively of women; with the men it’s just the same.

The evil can consume you in two ways. One is, you look at evil and you find it beautiful. Some people do; they are captivated by the sheer charm of evil. Aren’t the dons in the movies sometimes very charming? In fact, the most charming characters in the movies in…

When the woman is not in front of you, do you keep fantasizing about her all the time? This is mental illness. Only if you are indulging in all kinds of sexual fantasies and inner perversion will you jump upon her at the first sight. Otherwise, there is hardly anything

Men and women are different; their biologies make them different. But what we have is a hyper genderization, a hyper sexualization. The differences are there, but little. Society has hyper-inflated those differences. The woman has been turned into a hyper-woman, and the man has been turned into a hyper-man. And

I am saying this as a friend of the woman. I am asking her, why is the male sight or the male gaze so important to you? If you want attention from people, if you want respect from people, why can’t it be for higher reasons? Why do you want

If you take yourself as primarily physical, then beauty too for you would be something just physical. You will look at the woman most capable of successfully reproducing. That’s the

It is not so much about attracting somebody beautiful to yourself or about obtaining a beautiful mate in your life. It is more about knowing what beauty really is. Depending on your definition of beauty, you will choose your relationships, you will choose everything in life. Because life, in one

The quality of your love depends on the quality of your life. Your love affair cannot be a sublime thing if your life is mired in littleness.

If a woman is good and fine, then her lover or husband would spoil her. Women must be honored for her intelligence, her qualities, for her inner strength. But when you start giving her importance for reasons like, her body is attractive and she is very sexually appealing, then you

Women like burly guys—and why do they like burly, big, and muscular guys? Because they are likely to have higher levels of testosterone. Unless you have testosterone, you cannot build muscles; you know that, right? And that is why you cannot build muscles, let’s say, after fifty or sixty. It’s

I understand, we live in a society, we are related to each other, we will have something to do with the other. You will always have some relationship with the other. But why can’t that relationship be on healthier grounds? Why must the two be related because they appreciate each

False love is very lucrative, very charming. Oh, there is such a romance around it! But then, that romance is hardly love.

You do not need to wait for your encounters with women to know whether or not you are sexually motivated. Just see whether leather seats attract you. Just see whether furniture and garments and carpets and upholstery and wall-hangings and curtains and sofa sets attract you. Just see whether you…

Real love is always tough. False love is very lucrative, very charming—oh, there is such a romance around it. But then, that romance is hardly love.

If you are someone who is a serial relater—one relationship after the other or several relationships at a time, whatever, it is one and the same thing really—you must tell yourself that you really have not a physical but a spiritual urge. And therefore, you should stop your mad, nonsensical

Hold on. There will be temptations; old habits, old environments will beckon you, but stand still and strong. Don’t give up. It’s a battle worth fighting and worth winning. Don’t lose this one.

You are saying that you step out and you look at the opposite sex and feel attracted, and you are calling it a problem. To deal with the problem, first of all, there must be a problem. The man is charming—how is that a problem? The woman is beautiful and

Questioner (Q): What is attachment?

प्रश्नकर्ता: सर हम चीज़ें अट्रैक्ट (आकर्षित) करते है। अगर हमारा कोई एक्सीडेंट भी हुआ है तो वो हमने

आचार्य प्रशांत: और जो परेशान हो, अपनी ज़िन्दगी को लेकर के, वो बच्चों का वीडियो गेम खेलने लग जाए तो अपने साथ कोई इंसाफ़ या उपकार तो नहीं कर रहा, या कर रहा है?

आचार्य प्रशांत: जिन्होंने शरीर के ही दम पर प्रसिद्धि पायी, जिनको शरीर के ही नाते जानते हो, उन फिल्मी सितारों की जवानी की और बुढ़ापे की तसवीरें देख लिया करोl देह क्या है, स्पष्ट हो जाएगाl देह भाव से मुक्त होने का अच्छा तरीका हैl

हार मोतियों का हज़ार बार भी टूटेगा तो उसे तुम हज़ार बार जोड़ोगे, बार-बार जोड़ो! सुजन अगर रूठ जाएँ, तो बार-बार मनाओ क्योंकि उनसे प्यास बुझती है।

कि सुंदर लड़की आ गई या हैंडसम लड़का आ गया और तुम बिलकुल कँपने लग गए, हिलने-डुलने लग गए। जो तुम्हें अपना शरीर दिखा करके प्रभावित करना चाहे, तुम पर हावी होना चाहे, उसका प्रतिरोध आवश्यक है। कोई साधारण तौर पर सुंदर हो और तुम्हारे सामने आ जाए, उसकी तो

देखते नहीं हो बहुत सारी जो एडल्ट ड्रेसेस (बड़ों के कपड़े) होती हैं, वो बिलकुल वैसी ही होती हैं जैसे एक साल, दो साल के बच्चों के झबले। एक साल, दो साल के बच्चों के कपड़े देखे हैं कैसे होते हैं? बहुत सारी

कोई गर्मी का मौसम हो, तुम शरीर खुला रखो, बात समझ में आती है। तुम कहीं नदी में, स्विमिंग पूल (तरण ताल) में नहाने जा रहे हो, तुम कपड़े उतार दो, बात समझ में आती है। या तुम सिर्फ़ अपनी सुविधा के लिए कम कपड़े पहनो तो भी बात समझ

जिसी स्त्री के नितंब बड़े हों, स्तन बड़े हों, चर्बी खूब हो कोमल-कोमल, तुम्हारी भाषा में, वो पुरुष को तत्काल पसंद आ जाती है। उसमें सुंदरता की कोई बात नहीं है; उसमें प्राकृतिक व्यवस्था है गर्भाधान की। वह प्राकृतिक व्यवस्था है कि पुरुष की आँखें ढूँढ़ती ही ऐसी स्त्री को

पुरुषों ने खूब बहती गंगा में हाथ धोए हैं। स्त्री वैसे ही आतुर रहती है कि कोई ज़रा तारीफ़ कर दे, तो उन्होंने कहा “इसको फँसाने का तो बढ़िया तरीका है, ज़रा-सी तारीफ़ कर दो।”

प्रश्नकर्ता: एक विचार बरक़रार ही रहता है कि 'क्या लोग सोचते हैं या क्या है छवि?' कभी थोड़ा कम दिखता है पर रहता ही है। फिर ये क्यों है, ऐसा सब के साथ तो नहीं है, जैसे अभी कोई छोटा कुत्ता है, तो उसके लिए तो मैं नहीं सोच रहा