Questioner: I was in a relationship with a person from the last eight years. Last three years while being with me, he was also seeing and dating other women. I have always been honest and loyal to him. After knowing that he is so mean, so dishonest, why am I still not able to give up on him? Kindly give me some techniques on how to get over him, forget him, and ultimately disassociate myself from a person like him.
Acharya Prashant: You see if you are keeping a dog, you will probably have to go to the meat market. There is no option available to you as long as you keep the dog very close to your heart. It makes no sense to crib about the stink and the squealer and the chaos in the meat market because your presence there has not been forced by anybody else upon you. As long as you stick to the dog, you will have to stick to the meat market as well.
If you find that you are needlessly attracted to an unworthy person, then it is not that so-called mean person you need to distance yourself from, rather you need to investigate what is it within you that craves for meanness. You say you have been in a relationship with that person for eight years. If the person is really mean, what were you doing with that person for so long? Only meanness gets attracted to meanness.
You say you were very loyal to that person etc. What was so great about that person that you offered your loyalty to him? As far as I understand life a little, one's loyalties must be reserved for the highest one can come across. Or is one's loyalty a cheap thing, an article on sale that you can offer it to just about any random, average, mean person? I want to ask this question to all who either demand or profess loyalty from another person or towards another person.
