Physical nearness has to be the tail of the elephant. Once the entire elephant has passed through, only then you must see the little tail. Only that much importance it must have.
Instead of that, the sexual aspect becomes the elephant. As far as the real, truthful, spiritual aspect is concerned, you keep waiting for the tail to come, and when you come to the rear of the elephant, you realize it is tailless—because the spiritual aspect cannot follow physicality.
Physicality, sometimes, can follow the spiritual part. Not always. Sometimes.