Question: Sir, love is not attachment. Attachment means habit and if it is so, the person you love becomes an object. But if we are not attached to that person we love, then we see that person like others, and it is our habit to hurt others for our own profit. So, it is sure that we will hurt that person also whom we love because now we see that person like everyone else. So, if we are not attached to that person, how can we say that we are in love with that person?
Speaker: She is saying that normally people hurt those around them. That is what you call normal human life; keep hurting everybody. She says that if I am attached to someone I don’t hurt him or her, but I hurt everybody else. So, the conclusion is that if I am not attached to the object of my love, I will hurt him as well. Do you see the flow of logic in her mind? I hurt everybody and then there is one exception. Who? The person I love and I am attached to that person. If I am not attached to that person, then I will hurt that person also. So, this implies that if I hurt that person how is it love? Hence the conclusion is, attachment is love.
Do you think that you can have a different self towards different objects? Is it possible? What makes you think that you do not hurt the object of your love? You only think that you do not hurt. You keep hurting everybody. It is the same mind everywhere. Or do you have a different mind when you are in front of your loving object? That is the assumption that we make and it is a great fallacy.
See the kind of separation that we want to create in the mind. We say, ‘I work in an office and I am the most corrupt worker there but I claim that when I come back to my home in the night, I will be very loving towards my wife’. The entire day you have been a pain to the entire world and in the evening you think that you can be loving towards your wife. Is that really possible? Yes, you will try to be loving but your very definition of love will be corrupted because you are a corrupt mind. And with your corrupted definition of love, you will only be violent towards your wife. Maybe you will not beat her but you will be violent in subtle ways, and that violence is more torturous.
