Many of us interrupt, rush to make our point, or change the topic when a conversation comes too close. We call it a lack of patience or discipline. But impatience in a conversation is often fear: when what we hold within is borrowed belief, every question could shatter it. The same confusion makes us take our instincts and feelings as ourselves, though they are only the body’s chemistry. If we looked honestly at what we hold, would a question still feel like an attack?
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Questioner: My question is more about interpersonal skill, that is communication skill. How can we develop ourselves? So many a times I face the issue, how to become a good listener, patient listener. I just get many relating stories into my mind and the urge to tell that in between a conversation. So I can just stop there. And it becomes like I am interrupting a conversation or disrespecting someone, kind of. So I want to develop the inner discipline: how to be a good listener and a less talkative person.
Acharya Prashant: You see, one listens not for the sake of discipline, but for the sake of dignity. If I am to respond to you, will I not look foolish if I respond without understanding your question?
Questioner: No. I do respond the correct context. Obviously, I listen to them. But not all the time it should be like I’m telling from my side more, or the unnecessary things shouldn’t come out. If someone stranger in front of me shouldn’t be much more friendly to them or telling more…
