Acharya Prashant: If you will observe, you will find that people who are living most contented lives do not find it necessary to intrude in the lives of their kids, their sons and daughters. Because they are complete and satisfied in themselves. If they have to do something, or get something, or act something in a particular way, they place the responsibility on themselves. They would not say that that which is unfinished in my life must be taken forward by my offspring.
And on the contrary, people, who themselves are frustrated, incomplete, insecure, barge just too much into the lives of their sons and daughters. And if somebody is intruding too much in the life of someone else, it is a sure shot proof that the intruder is not joyful within himself. Because if you are not joyful within yourself, hence you feel the need to poke your nose everywhere. And because kids are easy targets, they live under the weight of morality, so you exploit them.
All of you, parents, or going to become parents, I must ask, are you sure, you know for yourself what is wrong and what is right? Are you sure you know for yourself, what is meant by a right life? Then why do you act as custodians of your children’s life? Are you an exemplar of what it means to live beautifully? And if you are not, then must you not first discover this for yourself, before you impose yourself upon anybody else, be it your husband or your wife, or your child?
You look at your life, you look at the quality of your decisions, and you look at the quality of your Mind. Have you settled down? You know what settling down means? Have you ever driven a vehicle on a dusty road? Have you seen how the dust rises after your vehicle passes? And then it settles down.
