Forgiveness is to not have the need to forgive. As long as there is a need to forgive, it means you are still sticking to the small things in the brain. Hurts, distortions—you are still talking about those little things. You feel offended. Because you feel offended, so the question of forgiving the other person arises: “Should I forgive? Should I not forgive?”
Real forgiveness is when you have gone beyond the little things of the brain and have totally forgotten the hurt.