Modern relationships often create more insecurity, not less, because people are conditioned to seek completion, validation, and identity through another person. Social institutions, media, culture, and tradition continuously reinforce the idea that fulfillment lies in romantic attachment. As a result, relationships become driven by dependence rather than love. Real companionship becomes possible only when one is inwardly at peace and not using another person to fill an inner void.
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Questioner: Namaste Acharya Ji, I have a question related to relationships. So I've kind of always struggled with relationships also, and I'm sure this question is in the mind of a lot of people. So in modern relationships, we have seen we are constantly in touch with our partner, whether it's through texting messages or calls as well. Plus, we also get constant reassurance all the time. The problem is even after we are constantly in touch, we always feel insecure or we feel abandoned. So why does this dependency increase so much even when we are constantly in touch?
Acharya Prashant: Because man needs God. Because the ego can never be all right with itself. Because the ego, the sense of self, is not meant to be what it is. It is meant to be something higher, something better, bigger, and something more complete. That's what we are always searching for, completion, right?
If body and culture and conditioning tell you that the biggest thing, that ultimate thing, is to be found in the shape of a person, why will you not worship that person? Why? And when it comes to persons, this is where all the institutions unite. They unite to prove to the individual that the other can potentially be your God, that the other can potentially fulfill you. Look at the markets, how they want you to hitch up. The markets don't like you alone. No, you walk into a restaurant all by yourself, you might struggle to find a table. The waiter will say, "No, no, this one has six chairs. This is for the family." Even the four, "No, no, no, this is for couples." You can maybe sit on the ceiling fan. So the markets are constantly impressing on you that you need to be at least double.
