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ऐसा साथी ढूँढो || आचार्य प्रशांत, वेदांत महोत्सव ऋषिकेश में (2021)
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Marriage
Spirituality
Consciousness
Life Partner
Freedom
Suffering
Discernment
Companionship
Description

A questioner asks about the eligibility criteria for oneself and a life partner if one wants to get married while on the spiritual path. Acharya Prashant explains that your life partner should have as much disinterest in marriage as you do. He says, "Get married only when neither of you wants to get married." If you say you want to marry and she says she doesn't, or if she says she wants to marry and you say you don't, then it's not right. Only when both of you are adamant about not wanting to marry, then you should marry. He advises that if someone is eager for marriage, you should run away from them as you would from a ghost. He clarifies that he has no problem with marriage itself. Marriage is just two people living together, and there's no issue with that. The problem arises when the relationship becomes toxic. The purpose of spirituality is to free you from suffering. As an unsatisfied consciousness, your life's purpose is to find freedom from that dissatisfaction. If you do something that increases your dissatisfaction, then you must speak against it. He is not against marriage, but against the kind of marriage that increases suffering. He advises finding a partner who helps in the upliftment of your consciousness. He says to pursue and marry such a person. However, he warns against choosing a partner based on looks, beauty, or lust, as consciousness is lost in such situations. Most people make the mistake of choosing a partner in a state of unconsciousness. He suggests taking time and not rushing into marriage at a young age like 22 or 24, as one is not mature enough to make such a life-altering decision. He suggests waiting until at least 30-35, or even 40-45. He concludes by stating that he is in favor of marriage, but it should be done consciously, not in a state of unconsciousness. Men and women will live together, but they should not do so to destroy each other. They should be together in a way that is beneficial for both, leading to their welfare.