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The guilty husband, and domestic violence || Acharya Prashant (2020)
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Relationship Fraud
Guilt
Domestic Violence
Sexuality
Marriage
Gender Roles
Deception
Emotional Needs
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that when a husband is a lion outside the house but a meek sheep within, it is because he has been a cheat and carries a guilty conscience. This inability to face his wife causes hatred and violence to arise in him, which may lead to abuse and assault. The relationship itself was founded on a fraud. The husband has been a cheat because the relationship was based on a lie from the beginning. The speaker elaborates that the man's attraction to the woman is primarily physical, about 70-80 percent. When he says, "I love you," he is really thinking about getting into bed. Conversely, the woman's attraction is primarily emotional, and when she says, "I love you," she is thinking about marriage and security. Both use the same words, but their meanings are entirely different, and the man is deceiving the woman. The man understands the woman's emotional needs because he has seen his mother's emotional side, but the woman does not understand the man's sexuality as she has not seen her father's sexual side. She views him as a male friend, while he sees her as a "nice, consumable body." The man marries reluctantly, not to build a family, but to secure the woman's body for his consumption without her resistance. After marriage, the woman has many expectations, but the man never truly intended to fulfill them, as his heart is only in the bed. It eventually becomes apparent that he has defrauded her, and he begins to act like a "guilty thief" in his own house. This is why a man can be the "president of the world" but "bleat like a goat" at home. The speaker also notes that the woman's story is not very different. Once she realizes the fraud, she should act maturely and abandon the old narrative. He states that a woman's potential is vast and should not be confined to the roles of wife and mother, lying like a "pearl at the bottom of a sea of hormones."