Acharya Prashant explains that it is sometimes helpful to give oneself a challenging goal. Whatever you bring into your life must be so challenging, necessary, and indispensable that everything old seems insignificant in comparison. Only then will you be free from the old. Superficial and artificial changes do not go deep, nor do they last long. Give yourself a big goal. However, just giving a big goal is not enough. The penalty for not achieving that big goal must also be significant. Otherwise, it becomes easy for the monkey sitting inside us. It will keep setting big goals for itself repeatedly and never achieve them. It is a shameless monkey that is not affected. It will say, 'Yes, I made a goal again and was defeated again.' The goal should be big, and the love for the goal, the understanding of its importance, should be so great that the very thought of not achieving it is terrifying. It should be clear that life will impose a big penalty if the set goal is not achieved. We often forget this. We make big resolutions, but that is not enough. One must also punish oneself if the resolution is not fulfilled. If you could not fulfill the resolution and did not punish yourself, then what is the point? It's all fun then. You can take credit for making high resolutions and also remain lazy and worthless, showing no determination, and not suffer any punishment for it. You must pre-determine the punishment for yourself. Usually, the biggest punishment is love itself. If you have set a goal for which you have great dedication and love, then not achieving it becomes a punishment in itself. Once you have set your eyes on the sky, who remembers the lines drawn on the ground, the walls, the ruts in the mud? They are left behind on their own. This is the method. But first, a longing for a star must arise. And if you don't get the star, your heart should break. For those whose hearts don't break, no progress is possible in life. Those who make a joke of their failure, who feel no shame, no progress or upliftment is possible for them. A person should be such that they set a high goal, and if that goal is not met, a deep pain, a deep regret, should settle in their life. So that when they set that goal again, they do not have the audacity to not achieve it. Otherwise, we have developed this bad habit of setting a goal, getting defeated, setting a goal, getting defeated, and every time we are defeated, we just smile shamelessly. No, not like that. The one who does not feel shame upon being defeated will be defeated again and again.