One may say, “I keep feeling lonely, let me get married”; or one may say, “Let me change cities and move to another place where my community or my friends live”; or one may just say, “Let me switch on the television or visit the shopping mall.” One behaves as if a walk around the park, or a new dress, or a bout of physical intimacy will help relieve the situation permanently. “Feeling a little queasy? Alright, let’s have some sex.” That will put you to sleep, but then the same cycle will be repeated the next day. This happens when loneliness is not understood.

If you can go to the roots of your own loneliness, then you will not be duped into running after objects; then you will not be tempted to give yourself superficial treatments.

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