A fellow might be doing the worst possible thing to you in the name of love or concern or friendship, and he will keep saying, “But you know, this is my care towards you.” This is not care. You must apply intelligence. Is this love? Is this care? When you love someone, you want them to be stronger, no? Or do you want them to be dependent and weak?
How far and how well you have lived so far is decided by one parameter: how capable you are of healthy aloneness, how comfortable do you feel without anything or anybody to even think of. That does not mean you have to become a loner. That does not mean that you have to become asocial. That merely means that you do not relate to others in a parasitic way. You relate to others in a lifegiving and healthy way. You do not go and stick to someone or cling to someone, nor do you promote others clinging to you.
