The hurt that you have received is a result of your own lack of understanding about the nature of life. This is an opportunity to understand life. It is an opportunity to not let the previous mistakes be repeated.
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Questioner: Good evening, sir. Sir, my question to you is: Aaj ke zamaane mein ladki hona bahut zyada tough lagta hai, like we hear a lot of painful stories. Some of us go through that stuff, and it gives us deep scars. Ham us dard se kaise niklein? Matlab, us dard ke baare mein sochte hain to aur dard badhta hai. But we can't stop thinking about it. And if you want to forgive some people who made us so broke from inside that death seems easier for us. Sir, how to heal?
Acharya Prashant: I'll focus on the part of the question that deals with hurt and forgiveness. See, the more you allow someone to become the very center of your life, your very identity, the greater the hurt will be, and the deeper the wound will be when that person deserts or disappoints you. Please understand. We talk of forgetting and forgiving in relationships. But none of that is possible if you remain hurt. And if you are indeed hurt, and are yet talking of forgetting and forgiving, then it is a mere pretense.
As long as it is hurting within, it will remain impossible to forgive. Then you can pretend that you are forgetting, fine. And sometimes you have no option but to pretend, because you can anyway not extract revenge. That other person might be in a powerful position, and there is no way you can even up against him. So you say, "No, I have forgiven that person. I don't want any revenge or retribution."
