Whenever you will give a lot of importance to what others give you, you will be afraid, and then you will want to play safe. Make a list of all that others give you—company, attachment, reputation, and these are the things that are at the core of your fear.
Whenever there is the other, wherever there is dependence on the other, there is fear, and hence a search for safety.
“I am dependent upon the industry for my self-worth. Let them come and give me a job that makes me feel safe. And not one job offer, I want to have two—one in hand, one in pocket.” Now you are dependent, severely dependent.
“How am I looking? I depend on somebody else to approve my looks.” You are playing safe.