Relationships: Trust & Broken expectations ||Acharya Prashant, International Psychology Summit(2023)

Questioner (Q): Acharya Ji, we have talked about friends and how we have the freedom to choose our friends, and elaborating on that thought we don’t have the freedom to choose our family members, our relatives. And the way we are brought up, the way we are socialized, there is an implicit trust that we take for granted that we can trust these people, and we never question that thing and years pass by but then external conditions bring challenges and problems, then those relationships are put to the real test. We are tested and so do the rest, and in that sometimes some betray us or they face betrayal from us. It’s ok they were having some expectations from us that we couldn’t fulfill and we have some expectations which they couldn’t fulfill. I understand all that.

I have gone through this pain also post-Covid. A lot of emotions, a lot of pain, and a lot of trauma, I have risen above it now. I am functioning well, in fact, I am flourishing, but what keeps coming back to me is the Karmic account. First, is that a concept? Do you believe in that? I feel that so much of Karmic account has build-up over so many years, lived in a particular manner for twenty, years never thought anything, nor did anything negative happened. Neither we did nor they. Now, it bothers me that there is a lot of Karmic account and will I ever be able to liberate from that? I don’t have any vengeful feelings for them, nothing like that, I don’t know about them but how do I try to liberate myself from that? Is there a possibility?

Acharya Prashant (AP:) What is a Karmic account?

Q: Yes, that, first of all, I don’t have much clarity on, what exactly Karmic account is. A lot of things between us are common, entangled.