I love you. I also love chicken || Acharya Prashant, with MMMUT Gorakhpur (2023)

Questioner (Q): Hello sir, Valentine's Day is coming and for the past few days in our College there has been a an environment of romance and every day there is a new celebration. There is Teddy day, then Rose day and then chocolate day and we often see that these loving couples, who are in a romantic relationship, end their relationship in a very bitter way. So, I wanted to know, why relationships that start with such kicking romance and teddy bears and roses and everything end in a such a bitter and ugly way and what is the secret of a long and loving relationship?

Acharya Prashant (AP): One wants a loving relationship, that I can understand, but why does one want it to be long? And that's the reason why the splits are often so bitter. This yearning for length is a desire for security, which basically means possession. When you say that you want something to be with you for a long period, ideally an infinite period, what you are saying is that you want to control that thing and control is violence; is it not?

Q: Yes, it is.

AP: And control is fear and where there is fear obviously there is no love. So, if in love, you are looking towards the future, there is surely very little love. If in love, you are looking to formalize or legalize the relationship again, there is very little love. Love has to be a thing that scoffs at the future. Love is a commitment to be better. Love is when you look upwards, love is the way you look at the moon — upwards. Love is the way you look at the sky. Love is being with that, that makes you tilt your head like this (looking towards the sky). I'm looking at something, at someone far bigger and higher than me and you know, when your head is thrown back, that's when your head has bowed down. Because now you are looking at someone higher than yourself and that's what bowing down is.