“How do I and others move towards true love?”
You will have to very dispassionately look at the choices you are living right now, and you will have to negate those choices by making better choices. You cannot have any betterment without very honest, very sharp, very penetrative self-consciousness. You need to know what is really going on, and you must have the guts to admit what is going on.
But then, the occurrence of understanding and love in an individual is just so rare. Since we choose wrongly in everything, therefore we choose wrongly even in matters of marital union or sexual union. If one has understanding, if one has love, then one could be possibly beautifully married.