How will anybody know you really well? So even if others validate what you are saying or doing, does that hold any value? The only person who can know me well is 'me'. If I have to ask somebody, I'll ask myself. But that would require you to be impartial — "Nirmam", that’s the word from the Gita. That will require a certain detachment from oneself — a love for Truth rather than for personal weaknesses. Your first relationship is with your own inner Truth. And it's the most powerful source of validation.
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Questioner: Hello sir. I've been following you for the last five or six years. I think what I've learned is, like, in a lot of my aspects of life, I feel, I'm always chasing validation. And I have never really understood that, in certain parts of my life, I feel like I don't need validation and those are not the good actions.
And there are certain parts where I feel, which are the good things which I know I should be doing, I need validation. And I get that validation for a certain time, but then I can't continue that action. So I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Acharya Prashant: You can hear my being on this. I mean, I'm saying something to you that's not coming from any particular textbook or any pre-validated source. How do I know whether any of what I say to you makes any sense?
The moment the question arises, there's a problem. You have to be sure of yourself. You have to ask yourself, first of all, whether you are brutally honest in your dealings with others. You have to know for yourself that you are giving not just 100% but a little more than that to the other. Now you'll not need to look into the other's eyes and beg for validation.
