The more you will see how deeply conditioned you are, the less surprised you will feel on seeing how deeply conditioned others are. We do not see that we are scripted, trained automatons, so life keeps on throwing surprises at us. When you are in touch with reality, things don’t take you by surprise.
You thought you are dating a woman. She is not a woman; she is a script. She thought she was dating a man. You are not a man; you are a script. It’s a script meeting a script, so everything happens as per the script.
The possibility of love opens up outside the script.