You may say that you are in love; you may claim that you have loved somebody. Do you love that man, or do you love what you get through that man? And if you do not get what you want from that man, you start hitting that man. Had you wanted the man himself, the man was easy and available. But no, you had needs that you wanted fulfilled through the man.
And that is a life of need; that is a relationship that has no aloneness. That is when you just want to consume and exploit and get your fingers into the other’s flesh.