How to Control Your Anger? || AP Neem Candies
Acharya Prashant: It's not about anger at all. Anger is a misplaced subject of discussion, and so much has been said about anger. People keep talking about therapies related to anger. Will keep talking of anger as some kind of affliction.
If somebody gets angry, he is called psychotic. Is it about anger or is it about what you want? Yes? What do you want, Parul? And remember that there is such a thing as, which if wanted leads to total freedom from all desires and therefore anger.
There are things that you want and do not get. There are things that you want and you get. Usually both these things lead to more wants. You wanted, you got. Now you want more, you wanted, you did not get, you still want the same thing or more, or something different.
You keep wanting and you keep getting angry. You keep wanting, you keep getting angry and there does exist a thing which if seriously wanted is fully obtained. If it is fully obtained it leads to the evaporation of anger, even if it's not obtained, and when is moving towards it? Anger starts getting subsided.
Want the right thing; and if you're wanting the right thing, you have all the freedom to be angry because if you are wanting the right thing, then your anger would not last long. Such anger is auspicious. So, I'm not against anger, I'm against the wrong center of anger, the wrong object of desire. Keep wanting the wrong things and your anger will be perpetual. Want the right thing and you will have an explosion of anger. Your anger would be real, and slowly, gradually you'll find that you are becoming more and more peaceful. That anger has ceased appealing but that cannot happen through renunciation of anger. There are so many people asking, how do we drop anger? Anger cannot be dropped. Instead, you need to have a great and burning desire for the right object. It is not about dropping. It is about desiring. Desire the right things and feel angry when you do not get them. Nevertheless, keep desiring, keep desiring, and keep desiring the right one.
Anger would rise and then anger would keep getting feebler and feebler and feebler. The right anger will not continue for too long. It'll show a peak, an intense peak and then will keep dissipating.
The wrong kind of anger remains with you like a constant companion. It'll never dare to show its full face, but you will just keep simmering. What is better, to simmer or to explode?
You will keep simmering all your life. That is the permanent condition of mankind. Everybody is angry and if you do not believe, go to Twitter. Everybody is angry on Twitter. Is that not so? Everybody is polite on LinkedIn and everybody's angry on Twitter. It's strange.
We are very, very angry people. It is because we do not desire the right objects, desire the right thing, and don't worry about anger at all. If it comes, let it come. It can't keep coming for long. In fact, I want more people should have the right anger. If you have the right anger, then it's anger that would change the world for the better.
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