Listener: In my experience, when we tend to get rid of fear, in a way it’s de-conditioning ourselves. De-conditioning leads to a lot of changes in your life, sometimes it can be apparently disastrous – you can lose many people around you, jobs and apparently in the language of the world you become unsuccessful. All this looks like its crumbling.
Acharya Prashant: It is actually not crumbling.
You see, a man comes and this has just happened recently so I am saying, and he says that his problem is that he is bugged by his family, precisely by his wife that he comes to me stating as a problem. So I say, you stay, keep coming, attend a few sessions, read a few things and I recommended a few other books I said you read these.
The books did what they always do, what they must do. The fellow got an insight, he came to see what was troubling him. He came very cheerfully and said, ‘You know what, I have come to see that this relationship has such and such contours and I have come to see where the problem is’. Then he said, ‘Now I have a problem!’ I said, ‘What?’ He said, ‘Now I know this, my relationship is in strain’.
I said, ‘Wait, what exactly was the problem? You said the wife is the problem. Now you feel clear and empowered to let go; to let radical change happen and now you are saying this is the problem. do you want to get rid of the problem or is
