If you think that you are in love, just check what the company of that person brings to you. Does it excite you or does it make you peaceful? Does he make himself felt or does he empower you to be alone?
A real lover will empower you. He will take you closer to your powerful self. He will say that, “You are complete even if I am not there. Not that I want to be away, but even if I am not there, you are still complete.” The fake lover will say, “You know what, without me your life is incomplete. So, you better remain attached to me.”
A true lover will have a stake in your well-being. A false lover will have a stake in your dependencies. He will want that you remain dependent upon him, emotionally, physically, financially, in some way or the other. The true lover will want you to be totally free of everything, including himself.