You are fantasizing: “When I meet that man, such and such great things will happen. And now we are having coffee, and now we are watching the movie, and the movie is wonderful”—and the entire three-hour movie you are visualizing.
What is at the basis of this entire fantasy? That the man is prepared to spend a day with you. Go check out on him—ah, the show stops. To avoid your devastation, you decide all the more to remain oblivious of the fact. That’s the one thing dream lovers strictly avoid: checking the facts out.
So, I advise you often to check on your own facts and also know what is happening in the world. That will help you stay clear of illusions.