In response to a question about how to select a life partner, Acharya Prashant advises that instead of focusing on one's preferences, one should look at their own weaknesses. This advice is for all who are in the process of getting married. One should not go by their liking, especially the liking that arises at first sight. The selection should be based on one's own weaknesses. This process requires great humility. First, one must accept what is not right in their life, what is sick, weak, and needs improvement. Then, one should look at the person who is about to enter their life and ask if this person will help fix their bondages, suffering, and weaknesses. Will this person's presence help them heal? Or is this person appealing precisely because they will protect and patronize one's weaknesses, never touching those areas and keeping them safely as they are? We tend to like people who do not talk about our weaknesses or attack them. Acharya Prashant explains that we are often drawn to a person who seems to offer comfort, for instance, by saying, "If your right hand is weak, I will become your right hand." This person seems like a great lover but is actually making you helpless and disabled. In contrast, a true partner is one who attacks your weaknesses to help you overcome them, even if it causes initial pain. Only when weaknesses are attacked can they be removed. In matters of marriage, we often don't want someone who attacks our weaknesses; we want a partner who offers consolation. Your lover should be your greatest critic. A critic is not a slanderer but someone who can clearly see ('lochan' - eye) your mental state and structure, and thus help you become better. The ego loves lies, so we easily buy into flattery. If someone with ordinary features is told they are the most beautiful, they should reject that person on the basis of this lie alone. Anyone who does not want to discuss the flaws in your character, or does not allow you to discuss theirs, will not be an auspicious presence in your life. Your lover should be your greatest critic, but this is a difficult thing to accept as we seek adornment and attraction, not criticism, from a lover. Ultimately, every decision in life, including marriage, should be for inner progress. The goal is not to fill the house or get physical pleasure, but to become a better person through the partner's company. If the companionship leads to your downfall rather than your betterment, you should get out of it.