Acharya Prashant explains that our experiences are all contingent on wants, and our wants are contingent on others. Our experiences are desire-led, and all our desires pertain to others. We seek happiness in others. We have had innumerable experiences so far, and all of them relate to our wants, which in turn relate to others and the world. The speaker asks what these experiences have given us so far. This process of looking at them carefully is the process of negation, or 'Neti Neti'. When you see that wanting has not really given you what you have been wanting via wanting, you drop the entire emphasis on wanting. This dropping of the emphasis has been called 'no want is the greatest bliss'. The speaker states that even if you are an emperor and have a lot, somebody who doesn't want will be more blissful than you can ever be. This has to be born by your experience. For that to happen, you must first of all be truthful towards yourself. You have to be really demanding and ambitious in a sense, someone who does not easily give in or compromise. You have to remember what you wanted when you started looking at others, as there is always a clear, though perhaps subconscious, agenda when you relate to someone. You must remember what you wanted when you entered into that relationship with a person, a thing, or a thought. Then you must ask yourself, in your experience with that thing, thought, or person, did you really get what you wanted? Without kidding or consoling yourself, you must be really rigorous and demanding. Were you able to satisfy your craving? Did the association really give you what you expected from it? If it did not, then you must negate it, discount it, blacklist it, and forbid it from being attempted again. Why would you want to repeat the same experience or a version of it again and again? This is the path of reality, which is neither austerity nor sentimentality, but plain reality. If you are not getting what you really want from something or somebody, then why must you repeat the self-same experience a thousand times over? It is not sensible to walk down the same old road again and again, knowing very well it meets a dead end.
