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पत्नी और बेटी पर अत्याचार || आचार्य प्रशांत, वेदांत महोत्सव ऋषिकेश में (2022)
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Domestic Violence
Alcoholism
Attachment
Dharma and Adharma
Consciousness
Body-identification
Mahabharata
Family relationships
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a question about dealing with a violent and alcoholic father. He begins by questioning why the family has tolerated such abuse for so long, stating that the person they call 'father' or 'husband' has been gone for a long time. He argues that a man who questions his daughter's paternity or only beats his wife is no longer a father or a husband. What remains is just a drunkard, and the family is wrongly holding on to a false image from the past. He asks why they continue to support this drunkard. Addressing the practical issues of vandalism and theft, Acharya Prashant suggests calling the police repeatedly and even hiring security, which would be cheaper than the ongoing losses. He explains that foolishness and wickedness thrive on support. By protecting the wicked person from the consequences of his actions, the family inadvertently encourages his wickedness. He draws a parallel with the Mahabharata, where Duryodhana's mischief, backed by his father Dhritarashtra, escalated over forty years. In this case, the backing comes from the son and wife, whose sympathy encourages the wickedness. He points out that the family is responsible for the father's eventual death from alcoholism because they enable his drinking by providing money. The speaker clarifies that the punishment the family is enduring is not due to the father's alcoholism but because of their own lack of spiritual understanding. He criticizes the misplaced notion of tolerance, often associated with spirituality in India, which has caused great harm. Spirituality, he asserts, does not teach tolerating all forms of abuse. He emphasizes that no relationship is greater than the truth and that respect should be given to the level of consciousness, not to age, relationships, or the physical body. Acharya Prashant concludes by explaining that the husband or father the family once knew is long dead; only his body remains, while his consciousness has changed. He advises that if one marries a person for their mind and intelligence, they would recognize when that person is no longer the same. He reiterates that body-identification is the root sin, and those who do not understand that they are consciousness, not the body, suffer immensely, especially women. He advises the questioner to stop sponsoring the father's alcohol and let him live his own life on his own earnings, without being a burden to them.