Acharya Prashant addresses the issue of repeatedly getting hurt in relationships by explaining that everyone is thirsty, but this thirst cannot be quenched by drinking kerosene. He sympathizes with those who, out of intense thirst, knock on every door seeking water but are offered things like ghee, which only intensifies their thirst. This leads them to wander from one person to another, perpetually unfulfilled. The speaker explains that the mind is born a lover ('aashiq'), but it is an ignorant lover ('agyani aashiq'). It is certain that it needs something, but it doesn't know what it truly needs. The thirst is so intense that it cannot wait, so it latches onto whatever it finds, much like a very hungry person eating anything available. Most lovers are like this; their intense thirst makes them grab onto the first thing they find. The act of grabbing is a later event; the thirst is very old. Acharya Prashant states that this thirst is fundamentally spiritual ('adhyatmik'). However, due to the influence of popular culture, people seek to quench this spiritual thirst in the body of another person. A relationship that is physical at its foundation cannot provide spiritual benefit. You don't actually need a boy or a girl; your real need is different. Even if you get one, they will soon become a burden, leading to a breakup or an unfortunate marriage. Trying to find fulfillment in relationships is like trying different brands of kerosene oil—imported, aromatic, or fortified—to quench thirst; it will never work. He quotes Kabir Saheb's example of the musk deer, which searches for the fragrance outside, not knowing it comes from within. Similarly, one wanders and makes their partner wander too. This spiritual ignorance is the cause of immense suffering. Those who have had serial breakups are fortunate, as it's an opportunity to see the truth that what they seek cannot be found in these relationships.
