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External Loss
Internal Loss
Meaning
Interpretation
Choice
Freedom
Triggers
Mind
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that our reactions to external events are not automatic but are based on the meaning we assign to them. He uses an analogy: if a stranger slaps you on the shoulder from behind, the automated response is to turn and look, which can escalate. However, if a friend does the same, the touch can become a matter of rejoicing. The difference lies not in the physical act but in the interpretation. We tell ourselves what to be triggered by. This is not merely a matter of culpability but of our freedom. If you can tell yourself to get triggered, agitated, or disturbed, you can also tell yourself not to get triggered. The speaker further illustrates this with the example of a fire alarm. If you are in a building and the alarm goes off, you might get scared. But if someone tells you it's just a mock drill, the same sound no longer bothers you because the meaning you assign to it has changed. The sound itself was not the trigger; the meaning you added to it was. It is not the events but the meanings you hold of them that agitate you. We have a choice over the stories we narrate to ourselves, and these stories become our life. Ultimately, if something is stealing your peace, it is certain that you are supplying that event with a definite meaning. The speaker distinguishes between external and internal loss. An external loss, like someone taking your shirt, is a fact. However, whether this external loss translates into an internal loss is a personal story that you claim and certify to yourself. The dangerous equation is believing that the outer is the inner. All our scary stories contain the statement, "And now there is an internal loss." The speaker concludes that we decide our triggers and must question why an external loss must mean an internal loss as well.