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Why don't Indians respect personal space? || Acharya Prashant, in conversation (2022)
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Love
Truth
Saints
Personal Space
Culture
Vedanta
Ego
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Acharya Prashant explains that the behavior of being physically close and touchy, which might be observed in India, comes from a misinterpretation of the teachings of the saints. This tendency to be physically close, even to the point of being intrusive, stems from a distant point of love, with the intention of not treating the other person as an alien or a foreigner. This feeling of entitlement to physical closeness is a result of the heritage from the saints who taught not to be so distant and to give less space to the ego. However, he clarifies that love is not merely about this kind of physical nearness. Real love is about knowing what is right, doing it for yourself, and enabling the other person to also live the right way. He defines "really getting close to the other" as helping the other get close to the Truth. The complete teaching from the saints, which he suggests might come from Vedanta, is: "Get close to the other to enable the other to get close to the Truth." Acharya Prashant points out that people have conveniently taken only the first half of this teaching—"get close to the other"—while disregarding the rest. This has led to a culture where personal space is not respected, and intrusive personal questions are common. This behavior is sometimes justified by the idea that "all bodies are the same," so one shouldn't act special. He refers to these actions as "corrupted flavors of love." He notes that India has a strong tradition concerning love, even citing a popular movie song that says, "We may not know anything else, but we know how to love." He suggests that while India was fortunate to know of a higher love, it has unfortunately been reduced to a personal, physical kind. He concludes by pondering which is the worse tragedy: to not know love at all, or to reduce a higher love to a personal point, suggesting the latter is worse.