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You too feel lonely? || Acharya Prashant, with IIT Patna (2021)
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Loneliness
Ego
Attachment
Dependence
Wisdom
Self-sufficiency
Technology
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses the question of why people feel lonely despite technological connectivity. He clarifies that it's not that we become lonely; rather, we are born lonely. This inherent loneliness is not related to the ability to connect via video conference. Every child is born lonely, and this becomes obvious in specific moments. The mind, as it is born, already carries numerous deformities, problems, and the potential for more. He illustrates this with the example of a newborn baby who dislikes being left alone and seeks the presence of others, particularly a human face, to feel relaxed. This need for company is a fundamental aspect of our existence. The speaker explains that this inherent loneliness stems from the ego, the "I-tendency" we are born with. This ego is, by definition, lonely and constantly needs something or someone to attach to. It never exists by itself; it is always "I am Akshay," "I am a scholar," or "I like to travel." The "I" is always associated with something. The problem of loneliness, therefore, cannot be answered but has a solution. The solution lies in understanding this urge of the ego to be with someone or something. Acharya Prashant categorizes the entities we can associate with into two types. The first type, 'X', includes associations that increase our desperation and dependence. The more we are with 'X' entities (which can be people, places, or activities), the more dependent we become on their company, and the lonelier we feel when they are absent. Most people and activities fall into this category, often disguised as love or care, but ultimately making one more dependent. The second type, 'Y', consists of associations that reduce our dependence and make us more self-sufficient and independent. The more we are with 'Y' entities, the less we feel the need to be with them or anyone else. The solution to loneliness is to be vigilant and choose 'Y' associations—such as wisdom, understanding, good literature, good discussions, and a good purpose—over 'X' associations. Loneliness is an internal condition, a cancer within, that cannot be cured by external connections like technology but only by the internal medicine of wisdom and understanding.