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Who is a friend? || Acharya Prashant, with youth (2013)
Acharya Prashant
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Friendship
Conditioning
Truth
Deception
Shri Krishna
Relationships
Silence
Aloneness
Description

Acharya Prashant examines the conventional understanding of friendship, questioning whether it is merely a trade based on mutual need, shared illusions, or the avoidance of aloneness. He argues that most people choose friends who reinforce their existing conditioning and help them remain in a state of mental slavery. He describes common friendships as bonds of mutual deception where individuals seek those who will partner with them in their distractions rather than those who will challenge their beliefs. He points out that a conditioned mind avoids anyone who might de-condition it, much like a terrorist would avoid a monk to preserve his identity. He contrasts this with the relationship between Shri Krishna and Arjun, where a true friend is one who brings the truth, even if it is discomforting. Acharya Prashant defines real friendship as a state of being where one is concerned with the genuine advancement of the other person toward the truth. A real friend is someone in whose presence one becomes more silent and less burdened by conditioning. He concludes by advising that one must first create space by moving away from superficial, distracting relationships to allow for the possibility of a real friend to enter one's life.