Acharya Prashant explains that love cannot be forced. The beginning of love always arises from suffering and longing. Without these, love cannot exist. He questions the premise of wanting to love Gautam Buddha, asking if it is a rule or a compulsion. If there is no real reason, one should not force it. The only true reason to love a Buddha is one's own suffering. When a person is in pain and looks towards a Buddha, a hope for liberation from that pain arises. Therefore, attraction to a Buddha is fundamentally an attraction to one's own freedom from suffering. The prerequisite for this love is the deep realization and sensitivity towards one's own suffering and longing. If this sensitivity exists, one will naturally be drawn towards the Buddha. This love is like a fire that cannot be lit by force, and once lit, cannot be extinguished; there is no formula for it. Love for any enlightened being—be it a sage, a devotee, a saint, or a Buddha—can only arise when one first has a firm refusal of one's own suffering. Most people get used to enduring their suffering, making it a habit. They don't truly live; they just endure life. For such people, who have no refusal of their own suffering, love for a Buddha cannot arise. Acharya Prashant then explains that there are two kinds of love: one born from weakness and one from strength. The common love we experience is born from weakness. We love others for their weaknesses. A relationship lasts only as long as the weaknesses of both partners are equal. If one person starts to grow beyond the other, the relationship is threatened. We are attracted to others' weaknesses because it validates our own. This is why we feel affection for the sick, the old, or a small child. Loving a Buddha is different and very rare because a Buddha has no weakness to be attracted to. He will not be enticed or pulled by our weaknesses. Strength, on the other hand, often intimidates us or makes us envious. The love that is born from weakness is called *Apara-prem* (lower love), which is not love but a form of enmity. The real love, which is for strength and truth, is called *Para-prem* (higher love). This is the love that is directed towards the enlightened ones. To love Ram, one needs a great, blood-soaked heart. When the heart is torn to shreds, then love for Ram arises. Otherwise, one is just proclaiming their ego.