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पत्नी पर शक और निगरानी || आचार्य प्रशांत, आइ.आइ.टी कानपुर सत्र (2020)
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Doubt
Trust
Self-Knowledge
Ignorance
Relationship
Spirituality
Vedanta
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses a man who is suspicious of his newly-wed wife. He first offers what he calls a "cheap" or superficial solution, similar to what marriage counselors might suggest. This involves open communication, sharing memories, going on trips, and reassuring each other of commitment. He acknowledges that such methods can provide temporary relief for a few weeks or months by reducing suspicion, as the couple makes promises to each other. This approach is common and often advised to couples facing trust issues. However, the speaker explains that this relief is short-lived because the fundamental reason for the doubt remains unaddressed. The root of the problem, he states, is not the wife or any specific person. The questioner's tendency to doubt is general; he would likely be suspicious of anyone in his wife's place, and he probably doubts everyone, including himself, his boss, and his friends. The problem lies not with the person being doubted, but with the doubter himself. The speaker identifies the core issue as a lack of knowledge (gyan). Doubt arises from ignorance. Where there is knowledge, there is no room for doubt. He explains that we live our lives accumulating things—education, jobs, relationships—without truly understanding why. We don't know ourselves, so we don't know why we got married in the first place. This lack of self-knowledge is the source of all insecurity and suspicion. According to Vedanta, the individual soul (jivatma) is the free Self (Atman) upon which various forms of ignorance have been superimposed. These attachments are illusory. The ultimate solution, therefore, is not a "quick fix" like a vacation but the path of spirituality (Adhyatma) and self-knowledge (atma-gyan). By understanding oneself and life through Vedanta, one can be free not just from this specific problem of suspicion, but from all the deep-seated afflictions of life. This will lead to engaging in right relationships and right work, not abandoning them.