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When Wife Hates Gurus || Acharya Prashant, with IIM Nagpur (2022)
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Spirituality and Relationships
Vedanta
Maya
Liberation
Upanishads
Convergence
Fear of Loss
Self-interest
Description

Acharya Prashant advises the questioner on how to navigate a relationship where his spiritual pursuits are causing conflict with his wife. He suggests that the questioner must figure out where his and his wife's desires truly converge, which will not be at a superficial level. The resistance from loved ones towards a spiritual path often stems from the fear of losing that person. They fear the seeker will become an ascetic and abandon family affairs. The speaker explains that this fear is a manifestation of Maya, and the wife's resistance is not against Vedanta itself, but against the perceived threat to her security and relationship. The speaker advises against directly defending gurus or debating the subtle concepts of Vedanta, as they can be easily misunderstood in an uninformed discussion. He states that the fundamental message of Vedanta is that all divisions are false and that spirituality builds bridges rather than causing separation. Instead of arguing, the questioner should get into his wife's life, understand her problems and desires, and see where she needs help. He points out that she likely engages in superficial activities only because she sees no better alternative. Acharya Prashant clarifies that the idea of "my personal liberation" is flawed. Liberation is not an isolated, personal event; it is liberation from the "me." One cannot be truly liberated while those around them are suffering. He dismisses the idea of leaving everything behind like Siddhartha Gautama as a fantasy, stating that if the questioner were capable of it, he would have already done so without discussion. He humorously suggests that for the sake of the Upanishads, one can bend a little, and in bending for the right reason—for Truth and consciousness—one is not truly bending at all.