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How to be more confident in decision-making? || Acharya Prashant, with IIT Kharagpur (2021)
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Confidence
Inquiry
Decision Making
Honesty
Uncertainty
Ego
Self-doubt
Observation
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses a student's question about gaining confidence in decision-making by explaining that what is needed is not confidence, but inquiry and honesty. He states that it is better to suspend confidence and conclusions than to be falsely confident, noting that most people who radiate confidence are actually radiating false confidence. The speaker advises one to remain an inquirer, even though it is a difficult and uncomfortable path. Inquiry is challenging because the mind inherently wants to come to quick conclusions and dislikes staying in a state of uncertainty or unpredictability. The mind prefers to operate in a binary of 'yes' or 'no', right or wrong. However, the facts of life demand rigorous inquiry and continuous attention. One cannot simply label situations as right or wrong in one go and then close the matter by declaring confidence, as if receiving an irreversible certificate like a degree. Life, unlike a degree, is not static and requires constant vigilance and questioning. What is truly needed, Acharya Prashant elaborates, is deep observation and the honesty to acknowledge what one sees. One must continually re-evaluate solutions and ask, "Have I really solved it?" The tendency to rush to "seal the deal" or declare "I have arrived" stems from a desire to appear 'cool,' especially among young people. Society tends to idolize those who loudly proclaim "I know" and looks down upon those who admit "I am trying to know." This is because the general emphasis is on success and results, rather than on the process of inquiry. Ultimately, joy lies in the inquiry itself—in traveling rightly—not in concluding, closing, or arriving. Therefore, it is perfectly alright not to be a confident person; in fact, being unnecessarily confident is a far bigger problem. The speaker defines confidence as a deep issue indicating an ego hell-bent on deceiving itself and an inner laziness that seeks to shut down the process of inquiry. Confidence is not the same as realization or faith. He concludes by advising the student not to feel inferior or be impressed by those who appear confident.