Acharya Prashant explains that to understand why a relationship turns toxic, one must go to its very beginning. He states that most of the time, a relationship does not really turn toxic; it is toxic in its inception, in its genesis itself. The toxicity simply remains hidden when things are rosy and pink. When the situation changes and becomes adverse, the toxicity surfaces, and it feels as if the relationship has turned sour, but it hasn't. Relationships are typically founded on a need. One feels attracted to a particular person because they fit a certain model or because one believes the other person can fulfill a certain need. This need can be emotional, physical, or even financial. This foundation is based on a sense of lack or insecurity within oneself. To make up for this lack, one goes to the other person, looking at them in a utilitarian way. One wants to use the other person to plug a hole within oneself. This is not very different from exploitation. It appears like love, but it is about using the other person. For example, a woman might be conditioned by society to have someone by her side, or a man might be driven by physical needs or peer pressure. The problem is that this inner need or hollowness can never be truly fulfilled by another person. This hollowness constantly bugs us. When the other person fails to fulfill this need, resentment and annoyance arise, leading to the manifestation of toxicity. This can take the form of obvious toxicity, such as physical violence, or micro-episodes of subtle, continuous violence. Even if one is cultured enough not to be physically violent, the toxicity expresses itself through expressions, subtle hints, and gestures. People in such relationships know each other's buttons and play around with them. The root of toxicity is a relationship founded on flawed principles from the very beginning. If a relationship is flawed in the first place, one cannot avoid toxicity later on. The toxicity is bound to surface. The common poetic expression that relationships have changed is a misinterpretation. The fact is, nothing has really changed; it has just become more clear and apparent. The thing has become more honest now. We were ignorant people when the relationship was founded, and we are ignorant people right now. We have not changed. The old toxicity is just finding expression. Acharya Prashant advises against quickly leaving a relationship, as it can be an act of escapism and cowardice. The real solution to toxicity is maturity. One must first heal oneself by honestly acknowledging their own mischief and ignorance, rather than blaming the other. A bad relationship indicates a bad mind, which is a mind that does not know itself and is obsessed with the world and its objects. The way to get out of the relationship is to not remain the person who entered the relationship. That is the spiritual breakup. When you break up in the material way, you leave the house. When you break up in the spiritual way, you leave who you are. That's a great breakup. In this breakup, the other person will not even know that you have broken up because externally you will appear just the same, but internally you are no more the same person. I didn't break up with you, I broke up with myself.