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शादी से पहले बेटा घर से भाग गया || आचार्य प्रशांत (2020)
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Marriage
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Satsang
Individuality
Societal Norms
Freedom of Choice
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Acharya Prashant responds to a woman who is distraught because her son ran away five days before his wedding, and she now believes only spiritual company (Satsang) can save her. He begins by turning the question around, asking who will save Satsang from her. He explains that just as she had decided that marriage was the best thing for her son, she has now decided that Satsang is the best thing for herself. He warns that if she approaches Satsang with the same mindset, it will be a flawed endeavor, likely leading her to a community where people only discuss similar family problems. The speaker then questions the mother's fundamental desire to marry off her son, asking if she has any other work in life. He challenges her to see her son as an individual, not a doll, and questions his age. He points out that if the son is an adult, forcing him into marriage is a crime against his personality. He criticizes the idea of a man whose marriage is arranged by someone else, suggesting it reflects a lack of maturity. Conversely, if he is still just a boy, he should be allowed to be, not pushed into marriage. He extends this critique to the societal obsession with marrying off children, both sons and daughters, calling it a crime against both the child and their future partner, especially if the child has been raised to be incapable of making their own life decisions. Acharya Prashant laments that for many parents, their life's purpose becomes marrying off their children, a mission that can span decades if they have multiple children. This singular focus on marriage, he argues, consumes all energy and resources, leaving no room for personal growth, life-building, or nation-building. He describes this as the primary business for many households. He points out the tragedy of raising a son who, even at 25 or 30, is so incapable that his parents must find a bride for him, and then committing a further crime by marrying this 'impotent' son to a girl. In conclusion, Acharya Prashant affirms that Satsang can indeed help her, but she must choose it with discernment, not with the same mindset she used for her son's marriage. He advises her to reflect on what she truly seeks from it. He urges parents to focus on their own lives and not interfere in their children's lives out of ignorance. Any involvement, he suggests, should be rooted in love and understanding, not foolishness. He emphasizes that one should enter another's life with love and understanding, not with foolishness.