Acharya Prashant explains that the common perception of love as something soft, pleasant, and comforting, like a teddy bear, is incorrect. He asserts that true love is like a sword. He illustrates this through the story of Tulsidas and his wife, Ratnavati. After the death of their child, Ratnavati went to her parental home. Driven by lust, Tulsidas followed her there on a dark, rainy night and climbed up to her first-floor room by grabbing a snake, mistaking it for a rope. Instead of welcoming him, Ratnavati rebuked him severely, telling him that if he had the same level of attachment for Shri Rama as he had for lust, his life would have been transformed. She drove him away immediately, showing no concern for the weather or his safety. Acharya Prashant highlights that it was this harshness and refusal to indulge his lust that led to Tulsidas becoming a great saint. He contrasts this with modern, 'ideal' behavior where a spouse might feel proud of such obsessive behavior, mistaking it for love. He emphasizes that true love involves the courage to be firm and even hurtful if it serves the other person's ultimate well-being.