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खुलकर जीती हूँ तो लोग बदचलन बोलते हैं || आचार्य प्रशांत, गीता दीपोत्सव (2023)
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Character
Societal Pressure
Freedom
Truth
Self-reliance
Respect
Woman's freedom
Kabir Saheb
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a question from a woman who, wanting to live a single life, faces character assassination from society and relatives. She asks how to explain to her family that she must ignore these societal pressures to move forward in life. Acharya Prashant reframes her question, stating that the issue is not about explaining to others, but about having the strength to live for truth without their support. He asks if truth is so cheap that it needs the support of others. He explains that he is able to be of service to people precisely because he does not care whether the world respects him or not. If he were to act according to others' wishes, it would be a form of violence against them. He points out that the question of seeking a 'character certificate' from others is itself an entanglement. He criticizes the superficial ways society judges a person's character, such as by the time they return home, often based on a security guard's gossip. He sarcastically remarks that by this standard, animals that return to their caves at night would be the most virtuous. He explains that people use character assassination to control others: if you follow their rules, they won't call you a 'slut', but if you don't, they will. To move ahead of society, one must stop asking for respect from it. Acharya Prashant elaborates on the true meaning of character ('charitra'), linking it to its root 'char' (to move) and thus to 'karma' (action). He asserts that action should always stem from knowledge ('gyan') and understanding ('bodh'). Therefore, a person of character is one who has knowledge. True character is not about following societal morality, traditions, or the crowd, which he likens to being a sheep, a coward, or a dimwit. He quotes Kabir Saheb, saying, "Swans don't fly in flocks, and saints don't walk in crowds." He concludes by explaining that to attain inner freedom (freedom from the ego), one must be free from the external need for respect. The desire for prestige from the world only feeds the ego. He advises that one must be prepared to be called 'characterless' by the world and to stand firm in one's truth, as this is the only way to be truly free.