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Grandpa says teenagers must not date || Acharya Prashant, at Mithibai College, Mumbai (2022)
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Freedom
Choice
Society
Culture
Dating
Volition
Arranged Marriage
Consciousness
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses a question about the societal disapproval of teenagers dating in India. He begins by challenging the notion of a monolithic "society," explaining that while we are born into one, as adults, we possess the free will and discretion to choose and even build our own society. He argues that one is not condemned to live by the chance circumstances of their birth and should create a suitable environment if one doesn't exist. To illustrate the power of choice, he defines an individual's society in practical terms, such as their phone's contact list or social media followers, which number a few thousand at most. He contrasts this with the planet's population of eight billion, calling it a tremendous waste of opportunity to be constrained by a small, chance-based circle. He questions why one must live by chance rather than by conscious choice, noting that most social connections—like batchmates, neighbors, or relatives—are products of coincidence, not volition. The speaker connects societal norms to culture, which he defines as a traditionally transmitted way of behaving. He asserts that culture is not sacred or unchangeable but is fluid and must evolve with advancements in knowledge, technology, and consciousness. The ultimate benchmark for any culture, he states, is freedom. A culture is only good if it protects and promotes freedom, which he identifies as the highest goal of human life. Applying this principle to dating, Acharya Prashant posits that the alternative, arranged marriage, is a horror. He affirms that young people should meet as free individuals, unburdened by external pressures or internal ego. The purpose of meeting should not be exploitation, entertainment, or lust. Instead, one should meet another in a friendly way, seeking a companion for life's journey. He concludes that avoiding meeting out of fear of society is sick, just as meeting for exploitative reasons is also sick.