Acharya Prashant addresses a young man who is distressed by the thoughts of his ex-girlfriend being with a new partner. The speaker acknowledges the questioner's suffering and offers a solution he calls a panacea. He advises the questioner to stop resisting the painful imaginations and instead, to fully and repeatedly indulge in them. He suggests playing out the entire scenario of his ex-girlfriend being with her new partner in his mind, including the sexual acts he fears, until he becomes bored of these thoughts and is freed from their torment. The speaker explains that the act of sex is a biological, natural phenomenon, not something unique or special. When two bodies meet, it is an impersonal, faceless event, similar to what has occurred for millions of years across all species. There is nothing special about his ex-girlfriend doing it with someone else, just as there would be nothing special if she were doing it with him. The suffering arises from resisting this natural fact, not from the fact itself. He compares the act to that of two lizards or two dogs, emphasizing its non-unique, biological nature. The core principle of the solution is non-resistance (avirodh) to what is happening in nature. Quoting Sant Kabir, Acharya Prashant reminds that one day, no one belongs to anyone, and even the body's pulse will cease. He advises against giving importance to such common, public matters. A way to overcome sorrow is to stop being serious about it and even make a joke of one's own suffering. He also addresses a related issue about the fear of past mistakes being exposed. The solution, he says, is to change oneself so completely that one is no longer the person who made those mistakes. This inner change must manifest in one's external life as well. Finally, he emphasizes the importance of living truthfully and not maintaining a false image for others, as that is exhausting. A true relationship is with one's reality, not their image. If people are attached to your image, the relationship is false. He asserts that no past mistake is so great that it should burden one for life. The real issue is the unwillingness to improve. A true friend is one who, despite knowing your faults, helps you to improve.
