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How to end friendships over differences? || Acharya Prashant (2024)
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Friendship
Relationships
Consciousness
Compassion
Responsibility
Change
Humanness
Ego
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a question about how to deal with friends when one's way of thinking no longer aligns with theirs, leading to contradictions and a desire to end the friendship. He acknowledges the situation where one person wants to break the relationship, but the friends still want to stick around. He explains that there are certain rules in life. If you have been with someone during periods of your unconsciousness, you should not just drop them as you grow more conscious. If you have related to people in your childhood, even in the simple way kids do without much wisdom, you have a responsibility. The relationship was formed when you were in your inner darkness, so if you receive light, you should try to share it with them. He questions whether the relationship was only about sharing darkness and suggests considering sharing light as well. Assuming that one's thoughts have genuinely developed in clarity and depth while their friends' have not, it becomes a responsibility to bring to them what you have received. However, this should be done with compassion. He advises against two extremes: one is not to discard people like used objects, and the other is not to feel obligated to carry them on your shoulders for your entire life, especially if they are unwilling to change. It is a measure of humanness to try to help people, especially those who were with you when you were younger, less bright, and less conscious. It is a subjective decision where you must ask yourself if you have tried hard enough to save the relationship by giving it its due. No relationship carries infinite weightage; that is reserved for the one you are. People take their own time to change and deserve patience and a sincere attempt from your side to help them improve.