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सही लड़के नहीं मिलते, तो निराशा और कुंठा में रहती हूँ || आचार्य प्रशांत (2023)
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Relationship
Sexuality
Social Conditioning
Compulsion
Hypocrisy
Nature
Romance
Freedom
Description

Acharya Prashant addresses a questioner who feels she is the 'wrong person' in her relationships. He explains that the issue lies in the fundamental nature of the man-woman relationship, which he describes as something that is inherently unsustainable. He elaborates that nature has designed men and women to be attracted to each other for sexual reasons, primarily for procreation. This attraction is a small part of one's entire personality and life. The problem, he states, arises from the hypocrisy of building a lifelong, romantic, and spiritual relationship on this purely sexual foundation. We give this biological urge a social sanction, like marriage or romance, and pretend it's something more profound. Acharya Prashant humorously points out the unromantic realities of living together that are never shown in movies, such as arguments, bad habits like not flushing the toilet, farting under the blanket, and other mundane aspects of life. He criticizes the societal conditioning and romanticized notions, like 'behind every successful man is a woman,' which compel people to enter these relationships. He asserts that the feeling of being crippled in a relationship, as the questioner described, is a result of it being based on a false premise. He argues that people are not born for the sole purpose of pairing up. He advises against the compulsion to be in a relationship, stating that it is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. The rule should be to be content and fulfilled while alone. A relationship should be an exception, entered into only when one finds an exceptionally suitable companion. He criticizes the social pressure that makes people feel incomplete without a partner, leading them to make desperate and poor choices. Most people, he says, enter relationships and have children unconsciously, driven by social pressure and biological urges, without truly understanding themselves or life. This, he concludes, creates a hellish situation for everyone involved.