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To break-up or not to break-up? || Acharya Prashant (2017)
Acharya Prashant
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8 years ago
Relationship
Pain
Self-Transformation
Loneliness
Internal Change
Human Connection
Suffering
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that if a relationship is truly harmful, leaving it should not be painful because the pain is already present in living it; leaving is actually an exit from that pain. He emphasizes that dropping a person does not change the nature of the relationship if the individual remains the same. Using the analogy of a drunkard seeking liquor from different shops, he notes that one will continue to seek the same quality of connection regardless of the partner unless there is an internal transformation. He contrasts the cowardly approach of changing people with the valorous approach of changing oneself. He asserts that the pain experienced in a relationship is not caused by the other person but is a reflection of the pain and inadequacies already carried within oneself. Relationships are often founded on loneliness, physical desires, or complexes, meaning the individual does not just have pain but is pain. Therefore, the solution is not to drop the other person, but to drop one's own current state of being.