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दोस्ती सबकुछ है || आचार्य प्रशांत
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Friendship
Deception
Mind
Complaints
Perception
Ego
Maya
Kabir Saheb
Description

Acharya Prashant responds to a questioner who feels repeatedly deceived by her friends. He begins by humorously asking if she deliberately chooses demons as friends. He uses an analogy to explain that if every piece of clothing one buys is torn or every fruit is rotten, it says more about the buyer's choices than the items themselves. This points to the fact that the problem might lie in one's own perception and selection. The world, he explains, is neither good nor bad; it is simply a reflection of who we are, an echo of our own selves. He dismisses the idea that the world is so full of deceit that everyone one befriends will be a traitor, suggesting instead that there is a flaw in one's own vision. He advises against harboring the complaint that one has been greatly deceived, stating that we are all a large bundle of complaints—about friends, parents, and even ourselves. These complaints, he warns, make the mind very dirty. A mind accustomed to complaining starts demanding more reasons to complain to validate its belief that the world is a scary and treacherous place. This justification allows the ego to build protective walls and cut itself off from the world, which is the very definition of ego. He points out that we see things as we are capable of seeing them, not always the complete picture, and blaming others only makes our own minds heavier. Acharya Prashant also addresses the issue of societal judgment, particularly regarding friendships with the opposite gender. He states that a corrupt society, preoccupied with sex, will view everything through that lens, but this is their problem, not yours. He urges the questioner not to care about what others think, as this concern becomes a chain that enslaves one for life. People will talk regardless of one's actions, so trying to please everyone is futile. To clean the mind, he offers a simple method: the same way it got dirty, it can be cleaned. He quotes Kabir Saheb: "Everyone says Maya, Maya, but no one recognizes Maya. That which does not leave the mind, know that to be Maya." Whatever thought, person, or idea constantly occupies the mind, no matter how sacred or important it may seem, is the burden and is Maya. The way to cleanse the mind is to let go of whatever makes it heavy. He advises observing the thoughts that constantly run through the mind, as they are the source of the problem and the mind's impurity.