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वासना और विवाह || आचार्य प्रशांत
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Marriage
Physicality
Body-Consciousness
Relationship
Lust
Wrong Marriage
Wrong Livelihood
Impotence
Description

Acharya Prashant explains that when people get married, they seldom admit that the reason is their youth and physical demands. He notes that women, in particular, would find it distasteful to say such a thing, even though it might be the reality of their lives. He acknowledges that other aspects, like friendship, can develop in a marriage, but insists that one should not deny that its foundation is physical. To illustrate this, he asks if a marriage would proceed if a woman discovers at the altar that the man is impotent, regardless of his other great qualities like being a top-class poet or an intellectual. Similarly, he questions if a man would marry a woman who is frigid or has no interest in sex, concluding that the game is straightforward. Acharya Prashant adds that it is possible to elevate a relationship. After marriage, if one's intellect becomes clearer and spirituality enters their life, they can decide to take their bond to a higher level—from the bedroom to the temple. He states that this can and should be attempted. However, he reiterates that the relationship's beginning is from the bedroom, not the prayer room. This is rooted in our deep body-consciousness; because we consider ourselves to be the body, we form relationships with others on a physical level. While other branches like emotional attachment to children can sprout from this relationship, its foundation remains the body. This physical basis is why, as the body ages, the relationship often cools down. The initial contract, based on mutual attraction, expires. When one partner is no longer perceived as physically attractive, the other might seek extramarital affairs, causing shock and pain. At the beginning of a relationship, the overwhelming force of emotions and desires prevents people from seeing this reality. They don't discuss important matters like consciousness, knowledge, or compassion. The speaker points out the irony of people not discussing critical global issues like climate change on a date, focusing instead on superficial attraction. He concludes by identifying two things that make a person's life hell: a wrong means of livelihood and a wrong marriage. For most ordinary people, both are often wrong. He emphasizes that a wrong marriage is particularly devastating because while one can change their job, changing a life partner is far more difficult. A wrong marriage, he asserts, can mean 'the end' for a person's life, leading to a state where men cry about being exploited by women, women cry about being raped by men, and their children cry about why they were born.